To ask my SIL to do this...

[crazydoglady6867]

But if a back story.
My DH and his DB haven’t spoken to each other in 40 years even when he came to our wedding he didn’t speak to my DH!!

My FIL is in hospital but is being allowed to attend my daughters wedding next Saturday. The problem we have is getting him there.
We didn’t invite SIL and BIL to the wedding, (they didn’t invite us to theirs) but this morning I have sent her a text asking if she will get FIL ready and escort him to church and then take him home. I have offered to pay for taxi etc. But now I think that is a bit cheeky, she hasn’t replied yet!
AIBU to ask her to you think 🤔

[PotteringAlong]

It was more than a bit cheeky, yes.

I wouldn’t expect a reply.

[PositiveVibez]

Cheek AF

[Fatted]

Definitely cheeky! You're basically telling them they're not good enough for the wedding, but good enough for a taxi service.

I'd make alternative arrangements.

[PositiveVibez]

A reverse?

[Spam88]

Oh wow, so cheeky 🙈

[Namechangeforthiscancershit]

Definitely a reverse!

[DuggeeHugs]

In this case, yes, I do think YABU.

Could you get him ready and have a groomsman/usher/relative assigned to assisting him for the rest of the day?

[Bobbiepin]

Definitely reverse.

[crazydoglady6867]

I see what you all mean, but I feel they are doing it for my FIL he will be so sad if he can’t see his granddaughter get married. I knew I shouldn’t have sent it😂

[choli]

Don't hold your breath. How did you even have a cell phone number to text after 40 years?

[crazydoglady6867]

what is a reverse?

[crazydoglady6867]

I have been texting her about my FIL illness and we have spoken on the odd occasions.

[Bobbiepin]

You are secretly your SIL and (rightly) angry that your SIL has asked such a shitty favour and you want people to agree with you.

[LyndorCake]

Yikes, this won't end well

[Bobbiepin]

Anyway if you're so desperate order a car service and pay for it. Apologise to your SIL.

[PositiveVibez]

A reverse is when you pose the problem from the opposite angle. I.e. It's actually your SIL who has asked you to do this.

Basically done when the OP wants to be proven right.

[crazydoglady6867]

Oh no I am not I see what it means now, no I deffo the cheeky sod that asked😂

[crazydoglady6867]

Can’t just send a car, he needs assistance.

[Bobbiepin]

Google disabled taxi service. If you want it enough you'll find something suitable. Cheeky sod is putting it lightly.

[Namechangeforthiscancershit]

Would a local care agency supply someone for a few hours to help him maybe?

[Singlenotsingle]

Why can't you do it yourself? I know you'll be busy with dd's wedding, but it is rather important isn't it? Otherwise hire a carer or nurse to escort him.

[crazydoglady6867]

Everyone is looking at it from the wrong angle😂. Surely it is doing my FIL the favour, if he could he would have asked her I bet. (Trying to justify myself here!!)

[Crunchymum]

Send another message apologising for your first text. Explain thay you would really like FIL to attend wedding and if she has any ideas / suggestions how to make this happen then you will be eternally grateful (and you will also pay any costs!)

[crazydoglady6867]

I will look into a carer for the day, if I don’t hear back from her. I won’t hold my breath after this thread😂

[Namechangeforthiscancershit]

Surely it is doing my FIL the favour, if he could he would have asked her I bet

Is your FIL not able to get involved in any of the arrangements? Sorry if I’ve missed anything about his condition