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AIBU to ask my housemate keep her dog in her room

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Whateverletmepost Sat 11-Aug-18 00:58:38

My housemate has just moved into a shared house of four, with her two year old untrained dog. The dog, in two days, has raided all the bins in the house, stolen a housemates dinner (not left out, jumped up on him and snatched it) ripped open and eaten half of my dogs bag of dry food, bullied my dog constantly, and bitten me twice. I have tried to be patient but after being bitten on the hand today, and almost bitten on the face, all because I was holding a stick away from him that my dog had brought to me, I have had enough. My other house mate has also expressed they share my feelings and asked me to speak to her. She shows no control over the dog, or willingness to discipline him. I can't see any other way forward but to insist that he is directly supervised by her, at all times, or kept in her room with the door shut. This seems dramatic but I don't know what else to do. It is not our job to train the dog, and I don't think its fair on myself or my housemates to have to always keep our doors shut, our trash in our cupboards etc. The dog has zero respect or fear, and will do what it wants regardless of being yelled at, I have had to physically drag it out of my room while it was bullying my dog by its scruff, while it tried to bite me.

DPotter Sat 11-Aug-18 01:01:07

There's no way I would tolerate this type of behaviour from a housemate and her dog. Are you in a position to ask her to move out?

JS374phina Sat 11-Aug-18 01:03:21

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. Anything that affects housemates in a negative way should be addressed. I think everyone that lives in the house needs to sit her down and express how they feel. Either the dog will need to attend weekly training or it could be suggested that she find somewhere else to live.

HeyDolly Sat 11-Aug-18 01:03:51

I don’t think it’s practical to keep a dog only in one room nor is it fair on the dog. It sounds like it would be better to ask her to move out if you can.

Whateverletmepost Sat 11-Aug-18 01:04:08

I am, the landlady is a friend and not a fan of the girl. I might start with asking if the dog can go somewhere else first, and give her that option. I'm guessing that her lack of control would mean she wouldn't be able to keep it in her room, even if she agree to it.

Whateverletmepost Sat 11-Aug-18 01:05:28

I agree its not fair on the dog, which is why I'm reluctant to suggest it. However I don't think there is any other option at this point, other than as you say for her to move out, or find somewhere else for the dog to go (it wasn't previously living with her)

Whateverletmepost Sat 11-Aug-18 01:06:15

Thanks for the support JS374phina

Blondie1984 Sat 11-Aug-18 01:15:20

Did you/whoever said she could move in know that she had a dog? If it's as bad as you say then not only could it hurt someone - including your dog - but could destroy the house and that, I'm guessing, would have financial implications on everyone...

Whateverletmepost Sat 11-Aug-18 01:17:29

Blondie1984 the landlady knows she has a dog. We thought it was well behaved, I guess we shouldn't have taken her word for it...

liverbird10 Sat 11-Aug-18 01:56:00

YABU. Not the poor dog's fault. Dog needs training, simple as that. So does your housemate, by the sound of things.

liverbird10 Sat 11-Aug-18 01:57:56

In all seriousness, O P, your housemate needs to leave.

Faez Sat 11-Aug-18 02:03:54

Tell her she has to enrol in training classes or they go.

sadiekate Sat 11-Aug-18 02:07:39

Crikey!
To be honest I think you should ask her to leave. She obviously lacks respect and concern for others' welfare and safety, and that will be the case with or without the dog.

Hombre Sat 11-Aug-18 02:08:59

Possibly it's rattled by your dog? Or maybe it's just a poorly trained pet. Either way, when push comes to shove it shouldn't be your problem as she's a housemate, not a family member, so you don't have to take on an animal that's causing you problems. I agree the dog needs to go and if that means she goes as well then fair enough. What does she say when the incidents happen? I mean, has she got an explanation or more to the point solution for this problem behaviour? Have to say that if any animal bit me I wouldn't be up for sharing living space with it.

chatwoo Sat 11-Aug-18 02:09:23

On the basis that her dog has bitten you, that's a reason to ask her to move out.

Keeping the dog in one room is cruel and will likely exacerbate it's behaviour.

Monty27 Sat 11-Aug-18 02:27:59

Sounds awful shock

Whateverletmepost Sat 11-Aug-18 02:45:28

Thanks for the responses.
I'm so stressed I can't sleep.
So worried about being stuck with this dog for another 12 months.

Aquamarine1029 Sat 11-Aug-18 02:55:59

Don't be stressed, take action! Immediately! Get her out.

Whateverletmepost Sat 11-Aug-18 03:06:36

Currently only I and a temporary housemate are here (along with her) and although he's also dead against the dog staying, he leaves in three weeks, and if the other two arent as vocal I'll look like the bad cop.

Wish me luck.

YeahDefinitelyNameChanging Sat 11-Aug-18 04:33:33

The dog needs to be moved out.

I was attacked by a random off-leash dog a week ago. A few puncture wounds and I’m very lucky it wasn’t a lot worse. If someone can’t train a dog then it shouldn’t be around people.

emmyrose2000 Sat 11-Aug-18 04:44:17

The moment the dog bit me, I would've kicked both the dog and the owner out.

Even if she took it to training classes, you'd still have to live with the damage and chaos whilst those lessons kicked in. That's not tolerable.

EdisonLightBulb Sat 11-Aug-18 04:54:33

I'm suprised dogs are permitted in a house share full stop. Four sharers could mean four dogs, potentially chaos. She needs to rehome the dog or move out, but it's the landlady problem not yours surely?

Mummyoflittledragon Sat 11-Aug-18 05:25:51

Definitely you should complain to the landlady. The other housemates are going to be subjected to the same treatment at some stage. I think until this is resolved you are unfortunately going to have to leave your dog in the bedroom for their own protection. Is her dog much stronger/ bigger than yours?

chronicallyawesome Sat 11-Aug-18 05:34:06

I've never heard of any animals being allowed in a rented, never mind shared house - I've heard of it being done, but that's different, of course! I think I'd go through the landlady. The dog must go. And in the meantime keep your dog away so in your room or out and about with you, and put your stuff away. If you have needed stitches/a tetanus shot make sure you point that out, or that you could next time, and that if your dog needs veterinary treatment you'll consider her liable.

BlueBug45 Sat 11-Aug-18 05:50:34

OP please talk to the landlady asap. Make sure you tell her the dog has bitten you, stolen food and raided the bins so is clearly untrained so needs to go. It's in her financial interest to kick the dog out otherwise she won't get other tenants.

I've houseshared in the past with different pets including dogs and none of them have been as untrained as that. The dogs were actually kept in the kitchen when we were out and they didn't raid the bin or steal food letalone bite anyone. (We made the housemates who were their owners re-home them as we decided they were spending too much time on their own.)

Oh and in my case the landlords insisted on meeting the dogs for a couple of hours to check their behaviour towards humans.

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