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AIBU?

Naked MIL

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Wrongintherightway · 29/07/2018 23:51

MIL had ds1 & ds2 for a few hours recently to help out with childcare in school holidays (not a regular arrangement). Ds1 came home and said gran was walking round naked! It turns out she had gone for a mid morning shower and was walking about naked (indoors obvs)

AIBU to think this is not acceptable, ds1 is 12 and ds2 is 7?

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boydoggies · 29/07/2018 23:54

What is your concern?? On the face of it I'd say YABU.

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IsTheRainEverComingBack · 29/07/2018 23:55

Why is it not acceptable?

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CherryPavlova · 29/07/2018 23:57

I can’t see a huge issue, to be honest.

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Whackytaco · 29/07/2018 23:57

Was she scooting quickly from bathroom to laundry cupboard to grab a towel?
Or jiggling her norks and twerking like an enthusiastic pole dancer for hours on end?
More info required...

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PatrickTheStarfish · 29/07/2018 23:57

Not appropriate imo, not at those ages.
How hard is it to wrap a towel around yourself?

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 29/07/2018 23:58

I don't think it's on especially for the 12 year old a bit embarrassing that she would do that.

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Stopitjuststopit2018 · 29/07/2018 23:58

Oh come off it guys, “what’s the OP’s concern?” / how about it’s just plain weird! Especially a 12 year old, I wouldn’t be naked in front of my 12 year old so definitely wouldn’t be comfortable for my mother in law to be!

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Beingthere · 29/07/2018 23:59

Ewww not appropriate and I can’t believe the first few posters think it is!

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AimlesslyPurposeful · 29/07/2018 23:59

As it’s not a regular arrangement she may have forgotten he would be arriving at that time. She may have forgotten to take a towel into the bathroom and was on the way to get one when your DS walked in.

There could be a whole host of reasons but it’s highly unlikely she did it deliberately and she probably felt as embarrassed, if not more so, than your son.

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UpstartCrow · 30/07/2018 00:00

The kids found it weird enough to comment, so its weird.
Why did she need a mid morning shower while sitting 3 kids?

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Emma765 · 30/07/2018 00:01

I think she should have anticipated that 12 yr old may have been uncomfortable if thats not the done thing in your family but fully depends on whether she got caught short without a towel and didn't think they'd see her or was wandering around as to whether I'd think she was out of order or not.

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NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 30/07/2018 00:01

Im naked in front of my 12 year old sometimes.. I don’t flaunt anything but neither do I hide away like natural nudity is shameful.

I’m sure if he was uncomfortable with it I’d know, he’s quite vocal about what he has a problem with!

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 30/07/2018 00:02

Walking around naked? As in making a cup of tea and a bite to eat or walking from the bathroom to the bedroom?

The former would be extraordinarily weird the latter not as much.

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AimlesslyPurposeful · 30/07/2018 00:02

Sorry, when you said your DS came home and said she was naked I thought you meant he walked into her home!

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Wrongintherightway · 30/07/2018 00:02

So, she was more just wandering round between bedroom, bathroom and back to her bedroom, it's a bungalow so she knew kids were in full view

Mil does not see regularly and it's the first time in years she has had them during school hols, just seemed a weird thing to do and DS1 rather embarrassed

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cocacolaaaclassic · 30/07/2018 00:02

It’s definitely not appropriate. If this was a male with his bits out infront of his 12yo GD you’d all be mortified.

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DarklyDreamingDexter · 30/07/2018 00:02

"Why is it not acceptable?"

Errrr, because the kids might feel embarrassed to see their gran walking around starkers!

Some families may be comfortable with it and used to nudity, but others won't be. The OP clearly isn't. YANBU!

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Rebecca36 · 30/07/2018 00:02

You are not being unreasonable, it was unacceptable behaviour but if you mention it to your MIL she might well tell you she often nips quickly to the bedroom from the bathroom and just didn't think at that time. She will be embarrassed. If that is the case I think I'd let her off on this one occasion unless you have other concerns.

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2up2manydown · 30/07/2018 00:04

Ah, I thought you’d seen your Mil naked OP.

I saw my Mil naked once. She dashed out of the bathroom as I was coming out of the guest room, full frontal the whole package. We both sort of pretended it hadn’t happened. I went back into the guest room, waited an appropriate amount of time for her to get herself sorted and went back out onto the landing and there she bloody was again - starkers! She’d run back into the bathroom, waited an appropriate amount of time and tried again too.

Some things you just can’t unsee.

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NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 30/07/2018 00:06

It’s definitely not appropriate. If this was a male with his bits out infront of his 12yo GD you’d all be mortified

I wouldn’t. Again... if he was windmilling then I’d have a problem, but general nudity, it’s fine.

I remember seeing my paps willy when I was a kid, if he had a wee whilst I was in the bath or whatever... there was nothing untoward or inappropriate.

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HellFreezes · 30/07/2018 00:06

Weird. Weird. Weird.

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VanellopeVonSchweetz99 · 30/07/2018 00:09

Bit weird yup.
And that is speaking as a totally uninhibited, zero-shame, 100% body confident Scandi.

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SandyY2K · 30/07/2018 00:09

YANBU

I wouldn't let her have them alone again.

Or I'd tell DH to tell his mum not to do it again as it embarrassed DS.

Some people don't know what is appropriate.

If the genders were reversed... there'd be an outrage.

Grandad walking around naked with his granddaughters.

Crazy woman.

It's shocking behaviour.

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Peakypolly · 30/07/2018 00:11

Or jiggling her norks and twerking like an enthusiastic pole dancer for hours on end?
Grin

So this is your partners DM? If so, this is presumably normal behaviour in your DP’s eyes and what they grew up with.
Have your different attitudes to nudity never been raised before?
Get your DP to explain your opinion on nudity to their DM.

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IceCreamFace · 30/07/2018 00:11

Bit weird with the older child, fine with the 7 year old around but hardly going to give him PTSD - probably just embarrass him surely?

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