NC as don't want post linked to my usual name.<br><br>Background: Both me and my partner late 30's. DP - been separated 5 years, going through a very long protracted divorce, 2 children from marriage (daughter aged 9, son aged 8). Has court order to see children weekly and half of holidays.<br>Me - have DD14, amicable with ex (but he lives abroad). Have a flexible job (WFH/hours to suit)<br><br>We have been together 3 years, and agreed earlier in our relationship that we wanted children. I have always wanted another child, this is the only relationship I have been in were I can definitely see a future. Not sure whether its my biological clock ticking but I am now desperate for a child. I recently had an ectopic pregnancy (have the coil) and its has made this yearning stronger, I am shocked how upset I was and how much it has impacted me. However, I do not want to consider trying for a child until DP is divorced/finances separated. He originally thought the divorce would be quick as ex agreed, however that position has changed drastically, it has been delayed repeatedly. It now looks as if it will take around another year to finalise. <br><br>AIBU to consider using a sperm donor before time runs out? Ideally, I would love a child with DP and him only, but only once everything has been finalised, which seems to be taking forever!! I wouldn't expect him to support the child and I know I am able to support a child alone, as ex left when DD was 6 months, and I earn a good wage. Do you think this would be 'cruel' (sorry cant think of a better word!) to my DP? Has anyone else been in a similar position? I am trying to get my thoughts in order before having a discussion with DP, so would appreciate different opinions.<br><br>Thanks for your views in advance. Sorry for typo's as typing on my phone!!