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AIBU?

DP hasn’t come home from stag do

148 replies

Brieonabagel · 22/07/2018 07:16

He’s just got pissed and stayed at a mates, hasn’t he?
He’s over 40, hardly ever goes out unless it’s for a meal with me or the family. The stag do was basically a local pub crawl with 18 men last night.
We have 3 dc including my ds15 and our 2 ds together ds2 & ds4.
We’ve been together 12 years.
I texted him to ask where he was at 4am and got no reply, it’s now after 7 and still nothing.
I don’t know what to do. Should I be worried? Surely one of his mates would let me know if he got hurt or something?
I’ve texted him again and am waiting.
I feel quite relaxed and don’t think he could be hurt. It’s just I’m not used to him not coming home and not telling me where he is.
AIBU to think everything is fine?

OP posts:
TheQueef · 22/07/2018 07:18

He's fine.
He's asleep on a sofa somewhere.

Beaverhausen · 22/07/2018 07:18

He is fine, he is probably paralytic and sleeping it off somewhere. Do not worry, no doubt he will come slinking home midday with a raging hangover.

Rachie1973 · 22/07/2018 07:19

I think you’re probably spot on. Bit of an arse for not letting you know. Xx

Shoxfordian · 22/07/2018 07:19

He's probably fine but he's inconsiderate to do this

RJnomore1 · 22/07/2018 07:20

Does he go out often?

The chances are if not he still thinks he can drink like when he was 20 and out every weekend and he's totally bladdered and sleeping on someone's floor.

With a bunch of guys you know you would almost certainly have heard if anything was wrong,

TrudeauGirl · 22/07/2018 07:21

He's probably just had too much to drink and has fallen asleep with a friend. If he's over 40 and hardly goes out, the alcohol has probably hit him harder than usual.

I'd say give him a little longer to reply. I'm.sure if something had happened, one of his friends would have called. Try not to worry.

FrowningFlamingo · 22/07/2018 07:21

He will almost certainly be fine (but very hungover!) at a mate's. I'd be really cross in your position though - and I'm usually pretty laid back!

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/07/2018 07:23

I would be a bit mad at the lack of contact but as it’s a one off I would take it easy when he’s home. He will be asleep on his mate’s sofa nursing a monster hangover.

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 22/07/2018 07:24

As pp have said. Still sleeping it off.
If you are concerned, are there any other wives , partners you can text?

Notthatwomanagain · 22/07/2018 07:27

Ugh that’s rubbish
Yes he’s almost certainly fine and fast asleep full of booze but I’d be cross not have heard too.

It’s a one off tho By the sounds of it if he’s normally not one for benders.

He’s going to be useless today tho I hope you don’t have plans!

Slartybartfast · 22/07/2018 07:29

no news is good news.
he will be back later.

ProfessorMoody · 22/07/2018 07:29

This would worry me massively if it was out of character. Can you call him?

speakout · 22/07/2018 07:31

The lack of contact would annoy me.

I would be in the process of planning a nice day out somewhere- picnic/beach/zoo with the kids.

Also leave a pile of cutlery underneath the base sheet of the bed.

HettySunshine · 22/07/2018 07:33

Is it his stag do or one of his mate's?

I'm sure he's just passed out at a friend's house. He'll slink Home when he comes to. Have you got plans today?

TheyCanGoInTheBucket · 22/07/2018 07:34

He's fine but it's annoying. I'd not get too riled up if it's a one off which it sounds like it is.

I'd crack on with your day, maybe try and get out so you're not just hanging around waiting for him. He could be some time if he's asleep on a sofa!

Jimmers · 22/07/2018 07:35

Agree with everyone else - he doesn’t go out much, the alcohol will have hit him & i’ll bet his phone’s died. Try not to worry x

FatCow2018 · 22/07/2018 07:35

If he's not one for going out a lot he probably overdid the booze a bit and is passed out at a friends. He'll be home in a bit hungover and mortified I bet 😂

TrudeauGirl · 22/07/2018 07:35

Also leave a pile of cutlery underneath the base sheet of the bed.

That's kind of mean If he doesn't do this sort of thing often. The lack of contact is bad but people make mistakes.

Brieonabagel · 22/07/2018 07:36

@RJnomore1 it’s very rare he goes out ‘with the lads’ now so I think he’s probably just got very drunk.

He did get in touch at about 11 last night to say they were having a good time and ordering shots so yeah I get the feeling he’s overdone it. I’m just wondering if I should be doing more, I’ve tried ringing his phone but he hasn’t answered and I’ve sent him those texts. I don’t want to come across as a batshit crazy thing so I’m being patient, it’s still early.

@CurlyWurlyTwirly the only partner I (sort of) know is the bride to be and I don’t want to worry her unnecessarily.

Surely I’d know (somehow) by now if they were all in the local A&E/cop shop?

My gut instinct is that he’s okay but ds4 wants to know where daddy is! Hmm

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Nottheduchessofcambridge · 22/07/2018 07:37

I’d be worried too, it’s natural. I’m not saying there’s anything to be worried about, he’s probably out cold on a sofa.

ChipsAndKetchup · 22/07/2018 07:39

Probably no phone battery and fast asleep on a sofa.
If something was wrong you'd have heard by now.

gingergenius · 22/07/2018 07:41

Should think all is fine but a bit crap not to at least let you know!

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ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 22/07/2018 07:42

Just tell him daddy is having a sleepover with friends and you're sure he will be back later on. Go out for the day, leave a note to say you're not happy with the lack of contact and you expect him to have hoovered / sorted tonight's dinner or whatever by the time you get back!

Lethaldrizzle · 22/07/2018 07:43

I wouldn't be worried more annoyed. I would never text anyone at 4am. I'd be fast asleep!

Candyflip · 22/07/2018 07:44

I am more surprised you expected him home at all! Why does he rarely go out? Do you also not go out?

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