Ive NC as extremely outing. Posting for traffic, need urgent advice on benefits and housing. Going to try and keep it as succinct as possible.
Friend of mine is really having a tough time at the moment. Her partner was arrested after being caught in an online sting by a paedo hunting group. None of us had a clue what he was up to and she was devastated.
Her life has literally collapsed.
Not only is she dealing with what's happened but it's possible she could now lose her home. He was the main earner, she had a pt job. She's unfortunately now lost that as she simply couldn't cope with what had happened and didn't turn up for shifts for a week, tho she did let them know. Recent employment so no rights, and understands why she was let go. Now signed off sick with depression for a month.
Had WTC, assessed on the wage she had (about 100pw) plus CTC.
She had already put a claim in for HB and CTaxB before she lost the job.
Then phoned and explained that she had lost her job due to her ill health and was told to claim UC. Claim duly put in, while still trying to hold things together for her teenage daughter and DS19.
Eviction proceedings were triggered as she was 4 weeks behind with rent, due to all of the above.. they are due to issue a summons next week, according to them. And yes they are aware of some of the circumstances.
She has this week been told that she will get no HB and no CTaxB due to her DS19 working. So will get only Child Benefit and CTC under UC. Unsure yet about any other income element, and has been told to wait til 1st week August for decision.
DS19 refuses point blank to pay towards the rent or to move out to allow her to claim HB, despite knowing that eviction is likely.
She's now stuck. He won't move out, or pay anything yet they are including his income as household income. This has left her in a complete pickle, to say the least.
She is deep in depression, so no chance of working anytime soon and afaik cannot claim PIP for 3.months.
How can I help her? I find it so wrong that she basically has an unwanted houseguests whose income is being included despite it not benefiting the household. Can they disregard it? She has tried to get him to.leave but he won't. She has no energy left to fight him and he won't listen to anyone else.
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To be fighting to help my friend *Possible Trigger warning...grooming*
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VeryConcernedFriend · 21/07/2018 00:30
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