Long time poster, name changed for this. Also posting here for traffic.
I know what you all are going to say, but it's not that simple .
Back story: Ex was very abusive - mentally, emotionally, financially. Once or twice physically. DD1 (9) has ASD (diagnosed), but he refuses to accept it, saying she's just a naughty child. Two years ago he hurt DD1 and the GP reported him to the police and SS. He received a caution, which he now insists is rubbish and doesn't mean anything. He has both DDs every weekend.
Due to various reasons (eg DD1 threatening to kill herself), we have a CAF in place at school. The girls have told their teacher their dad has been pushing them around again, so it's been forwarded to the safeguarding team. I tried to speak to him about it and was told it's rubbish and the girls are exaggerating. He can sound very reasonable and convincing if he chooses to.
Today the Family Support Practitioner phoned him to discuss the concerns. She called me afterwards and was obviously shaken. She said she's never encountered a parent that hostile, and that he screamed at her and was absolutely vile. He is going to report her for misconduct. The school is persecuting him and trying to micromanage his life. The FSP warned me that he is extremely angry - fuming, and concerned that he will tell the girls not to tell me if he hurts them.
So he's due to pick them up tomorrow afternoon. They don't want to go. Telling him that will just make him angrier. Even after 5 years away from him I'm still scared to confront him. I will be at the receiving end of his anger. I want to move to the opposite end of the world to get away from him. Overall I think he's a good dad, even though your typical Disney Dad. Apart from him pushing them around (I've seen this and spoken to him about it - apparently they need pushing around a bit if they refuse to listen to them).
I don't want to send the girls to his, but they love their dad, and my stomach is in scared knots at the thought of confronting him.
I've also received an eviction notice and have two months to find somewhere else to live.
I'm at the end - I have no idea which way to turn. Please help .
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NoLightInTheTunnel · 20/07/2018 16:40
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