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To complain about TA comment

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dungandbother · 19/07/2018 13:42

Dd was told off by a (strict) TA to untuck her PE T-shirt because it didn't look right.

I am outraged that she would comment on the appearance of a child and how they choose to wear their PE kit.
Yr 6 if it matters.

DD always tucks her shirt in because she doesn't like the feel of the waistband on her skin - no matter which uniform she's wearing.

Should I write and complain ?

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Pibplob · 19/07/2018 13:44

Grin you’re joking, right??

SistersOfPercy · 19/07/2018 13:44

Yes.
And call 101 to log it.

blackfootdaisy · 19/07/2018 13:45

You are not serious

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 19/07/2018 13:45

I wouldn’t.

I think the TA is right.

Maliali · 19/07/2018 13:46

No. It’s not worth it imo. It’s just not worth putting finger to keyboard for if this is the whole story.

HarrietKettleWasHere · 19/07/2018 13:46

'Should I write and complain?'

No. You should give yourself a shake and get a life.

wellBeehivedWoman · 19/07/2018 13:46

Was she told off or just told?

Was her appearance commented on, or just her uniform?

Does the school have uniform rules?

It sounds petty from the teacher if there aren't uniform rules to follow and she shouldn't have 'told off' your DD (if that is what happened). But I also think it would be petty of you to complain - this is a small battle. Children are often given rules they don't want to follow at school and they have to learn to get on with it without their parents swooping in over every minor interaction.

babyyorkie · 19/07/2018 13:50

I'm not sure what your complaint would actually be? That the TA shouldn't have commented on your daughters uniform? It's her job to do that as a teacher, surely.

shouldwestayorshouldwego · 19/07/2018 13:51

She just has a few days left. I am not sure that I could be bothered to be honest.

dungandbother · 19/07/2018 13:52

She called her out sharply by name in front of her class and told her to untuck her t shirt from her shorts because you don't look right.

If it were another child saying it then it would be clear and simple bullying.

From an adult? I'm appalled.

No uniform rules at all whether tucked in or not - very relaxed about shirt placement. PE or normal.

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Greydaygreyday · 19/07/2018 13:52

I really hope you're joking! Hmm

User10661815 · 19/07/2018 13:53

"outraged" 🤣

I think you should feel horrified, appalled and disgusted, just to help keep it in perspective.

dungandbother · 19/07/2018 13:53

I've never complained about a teacher or TA before. This one is rude and hated by kids but she's never targeted my DD before.

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User10661815 · 19/07/2018 13:54

Oh, it turns out you are appalled too. Phew.

Hangingaroundtheportal · 19/07/2018 13:54

She called her out sharply by name in front of her class and told her to untuck her t shirt from her shorts because you don't look right.

Oh my god, why haven't you called the police yet? 😂

Wellthen · 19/07/2018 13:54

Yes I definitely think in the last week of her life at primary school, now is the time to send a letter of complaint.

Discusting behaviour.
Grin

Gileswithachainsaw · 19/07/2018 13:54

I'd ask her to define "don't look right"
Odd thing to say given in primary school the younger ones put things on backwards or mis align buttons etc

Surely loads tuck their shirts in if they are a bit big for them or flapping about in the way of they are doing handstand ?

arethereanyleftatall · 19/07/2018 13:55

For goodness sake.
These things don't matter, they really don't.
You will live a happier life if things like this don't bother you.
This is how it would have worked in my house:
Teacher says to dd. Dd says ok. And never thinks about it again. Never mentions it to me.

LondonJax · 19/07/2018 13:55

I wouldn't bother. If she's year 6 she's leaving now anyway isn't she?

shinyredbus · 19/07/2018 13:56

im so confused - you want to complain becasue a teacher told your child what to do in terms of PE shirts? Just who are you going to complain to - the head of the school or something? I dont see the issue myself - but if you want to make yourself look very very silly (and in the process your child will feel embarrassed her mother has complained about a non-issue) please go right ahead.

blackfootdaisy · 19/07/2018 13:56

Oh go on then , complain
I genuinely worry about our future generation when I see posts like this

FlyingElbows · 19/07/2018 13:57

Ofsted, your mp, childline, the daily mail, phone the whole lot.

I'd bet a hefty chunk that your child got a telling off because there was arsing about in relation to the pe shorts.

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pinkyredrose · 19/07/2018 13:57

You ok hun?

dungandbother · 19/07/2018 13:57

If someone told me I didn't look right I'd tell them to F right off it's none of their business.
Why should a teacher say that to a child ?

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SummerGems · 19/07/2018 13:57

You really need to get out more.

I suspect you want to complain now because this is your last opportunity to be that mother. Grin Grin Grin

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