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Should I be flattered or insulted?

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Serendipite Thu 19-Jul-18 11:14:10

My MIL is staying over, and she mentioned her friend said they always just buy food from outside. She told her friend that "my daughter in law is an excellent cook, but she does not do fancy plating but who needs that?"

KinkyAfro Thu 19-Jul-18 11:15:21

What's fancy plating?

PanPanPanPing Thu 19-Jul-18 11:17:16

I'm not sure what she means by that either confused

blackbirdbluebottle Thu 19-Jul-18 11:17:41

I would just put all of MIL food in a giant heap after that comment!

blackbirdbluebottle Thu 19-Jul-18 11:18:13

Fancy plating is just how they present food on the plate

Mrsharrison Thu 19-Jul-18 11:19:13

Fancy plating = six fat chips arranged like jenga on a slateboard.

Oldraver Thu 19-Jul-18 11:21:15

It sounds like she said it in jest, though I think if anyone is providing you with food (and by her own admission it's good), then you keep any comments to yourself

PanPanPanPing Thu 19-Jul-18 11:21:32

Yes, but I guess I'd only expect that in a high-class restaurant/nouvelle cuisine. Surely, at home, as long as you put each different part of the meal on the plate separately that's acceptable?

At least she complimented your cooking though!

Serendipite Thu 19-Jul-18 11:23:00

She's kinda posh. She grew up rich.

I'm the total opposite.

Buddyelf Thu 19-Jul-18 11:23:34

I would probably be both. Its a backhanded compliment. I remember a now ex-friend saying to me 'oh your hair actually looks lovely today'. She could have just left it as 'it looks lovely' same as your MIL could have just left it as 'my daughter in law is an excellent cook' but they have to get the dig in there somewhere

TheSerenDipitY Thu 19-Jul-18 11:34:45

next meal slop it on on in the middle, sort of a tall pile and then very dramatically put a bit of parsley on the very top, look her in the eye and grin like a movie villain and walk off

bubbles108 Thu 19-Jul-18 11:41:56

Or next time plate it real fancy : three small chips gracefully placed with a tiny carrot and a small piece of steak. A little drizzled gravy ( half a teaspoon) and voila.

NataliaOsipova Thu 19-Jul-18 11:46:29

Ah, I think it's a compliment. She's probably just someone who talks a bit more than is necessary.

FadedRed Thu 19-Jul-18 11:46:54

Black dress, frilly white cap and apron, white cotton gloves, silver service from posh China dishes.
You need a parlour maid or footman, Op. grin

AngelsSins Thu 19-Jul-18 11:49:45

Does she comment on her sons cooking ability and plating techniques?

Serendipite Thu 19-Jul-18 11:51:14

Does she comment on her sons cooking ability and plating techniques?

Her son doesn't even know how to fry an egg.

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spiderlight Thu 19-Jul-18 12:12:19

Give her this for her tea.

spiderlight Thu 19-Jul-18 12:13:05


ItWentInMyEye Thu 19-Jul-18 12:14:05

I like to call that a slap and a kiss.

ACatsNoHelpWithThat Thu 19-Jul-18 12:15:02

Why are you cooking for her? Surely she should cook for you and show you how it's done or serve up her food with a side order of flob

soulrider Thu 19-Jul-18 12:15:25

I'd take it as a compliment, she's acknowledged that fancy presentation doesn't really matter and said you're a good cook.

OliviaStabler Thu 19-Jul-18 12:18:24

Is fancy plating

OliviaStabler Thu 19-Jul-18 12:19:01

Try again

Birdsgottafly Thu 19-Jul-18 12:19:21

It's a compliment.

If she has grown up rich and her friend is similar and eats out, then your MIL is just being descriptive.

Both the Hotel Inspector and Gordon Ramsey pick up on presentation from the off.

If she is used to really good restaurants, then it is even more of a compliment.

I would say that she is getting one over on her Friend, if anyone, pointing out your skill and that she is still eating better than her Friend.

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