Long post but desperate for advice! My DP and I are both 28 and have a 1 year old boy. We have only been together 3 years but are very happy together and with everything we have.<br>DP is originally from Northern Ireland so prior to the birth of DS we only saw MIL a handful of times, however we always got on well on these occasions.<br><br>Since the birth of DS however she has made small derogatory comments to me about my post pregnancy weight (I am not overweight), the way I dress, my parenting decisions and that I have chosen to take maternity leave (she went back to work 6 weeks post partum).<br>I am not a confrontational person so have let a lot of these things slide, although have mentioned to DP that I have found some of these things upsetting.<br><br>She criticises the way I have decorated our house and where I take DS on days out to my partner behind my back. And when she visits I can hear her telling DS about how he should be in NI and that he would be able to go to daddy's school and do lots of lovely things etc. I know DS is too young to understand but it really annoys me.<br><br>On her last visit she took my DP to one side and started crying, saying that she can't live without him at home and how her life has been torn apart and the family isn't the same (he has been in England for 6 years now). She also said that she feels like he is working too hard (he works in a full time job 5 days a week... but for context his younger 25 year old brother still lives at home and is unemployed).<br>This really upset my DP. I had to be upfront and say to him that I felt this was unfair for her to do and a bit strange. <br><br>I am so happy with my DP but I am terrified that she is going to continually pressure and guilt trip him until he caves and moves back to NI, especially as he understandably misses the place he grew up in anyway. Even after speaking to him I feel insecure and like a rift is developing.<br>I don't want to end up in a position where DS gets older and would have to experience a messy break up or even choose to move away to NI after years of having it bigged up to him.<br>I don't want to move there myself as all my friends and family are here in England and I don't particularly get on with my DPs family.<br>What do I do?