Hi I’m new here & need some advice. I’m not sure this Is the right place to post (haven’t used a site like this before) I just need some help and advice. This might be a long read (sorry) I’ve been with my partner for just over 17 years. I was aware that he’d supposed to have got another woman pregnant before we got together but they was never in a relationship he didn’t know the baby was his (she slept around). He spoke to her after a rumour had gone around that she was pregnant and he was the dad. As he was 19 at the time he wanted her to get an abortion which she declined (I would have done the same) she had the baby fast forward 2 years we had a dna letter come through from the CSA. Test results came back stating that he was the dad, he didn’t want anything to do with the mother nor the baby. We both had lots of trouble through the years with the family. 6 years of us being together we had a daughter he’s a brilliant dad to her which had made me feel guilty and as she’s grown I think he regretted not having anything to do with his other daughter. His daughter Is now 17 and our daughter Is 10 this weekend he was told his eldest daughter wanted to see him. It was a big shock to the system he went and knocked the door. They spend the afternoon together. He’s been drinking a lot and he told our Daughter that she has a sister. She’s not taken It well she hasn’t eaten for 2 days and has hardly spoken swhen asked Of she would like to see a photo or even meet her she says no In a sad quiet voice. He’s obviously going to want to spend time with his daughter who’s life he has missed out on. I can’t help feeling overwhelmed and jealous of this I feel sorry for my daughter. The family aren’t very nice they attacked me 2 days before I gave birth to my daughter so we’re not In a good place but he knocked the door and they welcomed him In. Of corse I was upset when he went round It was a bolt out of the blue and has knocked everyone for 6 I had to have a vallium pescription. He’s been drunk all weekend and wants to see her again the weekend. Please someone tell me that It’s normal to feel the way I do. I feel disgusting for feeling jealous scared that he wants to spend time with her and my daughter will lose her dad. He told me that he told her that I wasn’t happy that he’d gone to see her. It wasn’t that he’d told me and then left 20min later didn’t come back till 3am & turned his phone off I was a nervous wreck !!! I know that 6 months down the line we may all have met and be on good terms but as It’s only been 3 days I’m worried scared that she’ll take him away from us.