Just looking for alternative views on this situation as no-one to talk to in RL.
Baby 2 due and MIL will look after DD1 while l am in hospital. Going in at 9am so i thought we could pick up MIL in morning. DH wants her to stay overnight at ours so she is here in the morning to save travelling in rush hour to get her and because she is weird with early appointments. ....she tends to stay up all night and is then shattered the next day. Her timekeeping is shocking. She lives 20 min drive away.
Now he wants DD1 to sleep with MIL in case she ever needs to overnight with her in future. DD1 has never stayed overnight with her mainly because there's never been any need. Plus MIL is v deaf and once asleep wakes for no-one. I don't see the need for this.
What is pissing me off is I don't really want her here the night before the baby. She is loud, talks constantly about people i don't know/her views /what she ate for breakfast /commentary about what she is doing next and has an annoying way of directing the convo to her son. I feel left out esp when they disappear outside for a smoke. I am nervous as it is and will not be able to relax with her here.
DH is presenting all of this to me as a fait accompli.he knows I don't like it but that I can't say anything. We have already fallen out once about it and I don't want anymore fallout before baby comes.
Also i said I wanted first visit just to be him and DD so she could meet and bond and his mum could come later. He blew his top but has since agreed with me. I really didn't want her there first being loud and hogging Baby as I knew she would.
AIBU about them sleeping together? MIL is a smoker but night wear wouldn't smell. I don't know why they should. I don't envisage any overnight stays. I know a lot if this is because i can only tolerate her in small doses. I appreciate she is doing us a favour but it feels like he wants her to be more a part of our lives and I don't. I am quite private and she is a massive gossip. Plus it's always all about her. She is on her own and we do weekly visits. That's more than enough for me.
Sorry this is so long and thanks for reading if you still are. Maybe I just need to vent .
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MrsSiba · 15/07/2018 21:38
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