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AIBU to disagree on being too old to be a mum

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thefinn Sun 08-Jul-18 00:33:01

I guess that's pretty much it. DH and I have been happily married for a decade now, were together for five years before marrying. We are happy as it is with our pets but I would love to be a mum. I get down however anytime if I mention this to family and friends however. They all feel we are too old, both having turned 34 this summer... it makes me sad but a part of me feels I am being U and maybe everyone has a point.So wwyd?

Hullabalooo Sun 24-Mar-19 08:52:43

Had my dc at 40. No problems

WellVersedInEtiquette Sun 24-Mar-19 08:46:00

My mum made a similar comment when I had my first at 25! Second at 27 and third I was 34.
Be warned though, they will write elderly in your maternity notes though!

Seriously though op I think you need to stop talking to people about it who aren't supportive. concentrate on you and your dh and whatever decision you come to. X

Hanab Sun 24-Mar-19 04:54:24

do what is right for you. 34 is not old! My sis just had at kid and she is in her 40’s 🌷

binkyblinky Sun 24-Mar-19 03:43:22

Just had my third, I'm 40 in August

lilabet2 Sun 24-Mar-19 02:19:01

The average age to have a first baby in the UK is 30. Lots of educated people have their first between 35 and 40.

Definitely not!

Blondebakingmumma Sun 24-Mar-19 02:14:43

I had my first dc at 35 and my second 38. My mum has my sister at 40
Have a child, don’t miss out if it’s important to you

FoxSquadKitten Sun 24-Mar-19 00:32:56

I know it's a zombie thread but any update @thefinn?

KindnessCrusader Sat 23-Mar-19 23:51:39

I thought you were going to say you're in your mid 40s! No you're not too old, that would still seem quite young where I live!

LizzyMac40 Sat 23-Mar-19 23:49:48

I was 41 when I fell pregnant with my daughter. That was in 2015. Stuff what others think. Do what is right for
You. I never found the right man till i met my partner. I was the same age as what my mum was when she fell pregnant with me. Everything turned out fine. 😀

BertrandRussell Sat 23-Mar-19 22:58:34

Ah, shit. Lazarus thread!

BertrandRussell Sat 23-Mar-19 22:57:08

I was still career building and partying at 34- absolutely no plans for children at all!

Tancankerous Sat 23-Mar-19 22:51:26

I had mine at 42, 43 and 45. Crack on smile.

SpeedyBojangles Sat 23-Mar-19 21:52:20

I wonder if the OP ever did have a baby.

SeventhWave Sat 23-Mar-19 21:50:43

I met my dh when I was 35, got married at 36, baby a few weeks before my 37th birthday. Of course you're not too old to be a mum, go for it, that's what I say smile And dh is several years older than me too.

sighrollseyes Sat 23-Mar-19 21:31:54

My mum had me at 36, sis at 38 and bro at 41! I'm 30 so we are talking a good few years ago. She was considered to be an "older" mum back then (older not old), but this is normal age for a lot of women to have kids now. Sod what anyone else thinks you do whatever you want!

Tweety1981 Sat 23-Mar-19 21:31:15

That’s crazy , you aren’t old at all.go for it .

Bibijayne Sat 23-Mar-19 21:30:22

I turned 34 this summer and hadn't first baby. Really not too old at all!

StepAwayFromGoogle Sat 23-Mar-19 21:29:23

@Doyoumind - so it is. I never look at the date. Will start doing that now.

Imoan123 Sat 23-Mar-19 21:29:11

I was 33 when I had my DS, turned 34 a couple months later.

museumum Sat 23-Mar-19 21:28:44

I had mine at 37 (just) and made lots of friends the same age. I only ever wanted one but out of five of us only one other had a second naturally, and one through ivf after lots of mcs and pain. I didn’t try for a second but two others did and failed with mc and heartache.

So if you want more than one child please start trying now.

Inliverpool1 Sat 23-Mar-19 21:28:17

Ffs I had my last at 43

StepAwayFromGoogle Sat 23-Mar-19 21:27:42

That is absolutely ridiculous. Honestly, it made me laugh out loud. I didn't MEET my partner until I was 34. Had DD1 at 38 and DD2 at 41. You are a spring chicken.

InfiniteCurve Sat 23-Mar-19 21:27:19

I had DD at 35 and DS at 40, and actually DS was easier - down to his personality,not my age.
My Mum had me at 33 and DSis at 38. I remember a friend whose parents were younger asking me what it wa like having old parents and I was just confused because it was what it was - there didn't seem to be anything we didn't do because of it.Though maybe there would have been less parental napping after Sunday lunch - that used to annoy my sis so much !

SallyWD Sat 23-Mar-19 21:23:50

I had my first at 35 and second at 38. Really confused at to why anyone thinks 34 is too old...

Doyoumind Sat 23-Mar-19 21:23:21




Why don't people look at anything before positing?

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