There is a cultural difference between me and DP.
I've never met his family but I'm aware of who the different the people are and I get updated on things that happen by DP.
DP has always told me, he doesn't have that type of relationship with his parents. They don't really talk about things of a personal nature. They live in the south, we live in the north.
We've argued and even split, early on in our relationship because it was alarming that he never introduced me. We went to counselling and the jist I took from the counsellor was that it may be a cultural issue.
DP rarely visited his family or talk via phone...despite encouragement.
It's all blown up again for me. His DF is in his 80's and has been ill. DP has travelled twice to see him. I wanted to go with but was refused. I didn't push it this is about him and his ill dad.
First time he travelled, it was difficult to get hold of him on the phone. Not answered when I rang. Two-three word texts. Rang me on his way back. I had been worrying for him and about his Dad. He said....signal was bad in hospital etc
He went again and despite me asking him to give me an update so I know he's got there ok...how his dad is etc he did the same again.
It dawned on me, that his family know nothing about me and he wants to keep it that way. I asked him outright...has he ever told them about me or my dc (his step children but he's raised for 10 years)he said...
Not really
Part of me hears big alarm bells!!!! I have a hundred questions...how, why, what. Is he hiding them from me or me from them. Is he ashamed of me of them. Has he told me lies and scared I'll find something out?
Or am I overreacting. Does that mean our relationship isn't real.
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AIBU for his parents to at the least be aware of me and dc after 10 years
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inlawetiquette · 25/06/2018 08:04
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