I am the type of person who does the following:
1- research and educate myself to form an opinion
2- ask for advice from people who have experience to tweak my opinion in an educated way.
3- I follow what my gut instinct chooses from those educated opinions.
Now, for step 2 I end up asking my parents sometimes when it comes to ds and siblings and even strasngers... but not mil.
I can tell she feels left out and I feel bad that I dont make her feel as involved and I admit I too would be upset in that situation ...
However reason why I don’t is because once her opinion is invited for one thing, she assumes dictatorship of every kitty gritty and she would expect obedience..
So essentially, step 1 and 3 become redundant.
Any tips of how I can approach the issue in a way fair to her ? ( my husband speaking to her isn’t an issue).
There is no issue her either except I feel guilty and also anxious that one day she will explode for feeling left out. I did the mistake of consulting her in my wedding details and She ended up taking over like any other opinion doesn’t matter... and quite frankly telling me that the opinions of other people who advised me are shit ( relatives) and that I don’t have a taste..
So as a consequence, I now make it clear that her opinion doesn’t matter not even when the stranger opinion matter.
Although she deserves it, but I like to be fair and not hurt people. Is there a better way to handle this ?
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I never ask mil for her opinion, AIBU?
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YummySushi · 23/06/2018 22:12
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