I have two under two at the moment. The youngest is all me and the oldest is all her dad. Anyway, he was gaming (as usual) and they were both screaming at me. Now I have a really bad migraine and an auto immune disease that's currently flared up hugely, I'm struggling. I do all the house work. I get no help. Some days he won't change a single nappy. Waste of space, yeah? Its been getting worse. So my children were both crying and their needs are worlds apart entirely. (youngest 10 weeks old) so I have to tend at one at a time. I asked him to read our oldest a story to get her ready for bed and I got "in a min" while he played his games. So I shouted (I shouldn't have. I'm a terrible mother) at my daughter because it was a temper tantrum and she had hit her brother. An anyway, I lost my temper and dp was screaming at me for something and I told him to shut up essentially. My migraine is killing me, I'm sick and I'm tired and I'm struggling. So he told me to move out of my family home I'm renting!
I took ds upstairs as he was being horrible to him, not comforting him while I bathed dd etc and I settled him down for the night and I attempted to take the oldest to put to bed. He wouldn't give her. Since then dp has been in and out telling me I'm in the wrong and I need to apologise for snapping but do I really?
I get no financial support.
Not much support with the kids.
He leaves me to struggle picking up after him. If I ask him to do something, he never does. I have to wait 7 working days.
An to top it off, it's our anniversary today. The plan we had went out of the window because I'm sick of his shit now.
Recently I've discovered some of my worth back and some lust for life. I've applied to do a course with Open University to better myself and my life for my kids. I'm sick of having to sell all my jewellery and keepsakes to pay rent. I don't want this for my kids and I've lost everything. But I've seen the light now and seen who he really is. A leach and a burden.
I can't help but feel sorry for him for his turbulent childhood but I can't do this anymore. I don't know what to do as he will be homeless and I don't want that for him. But I can't be with him.
Any advice on how to go about this? It's breaking my heart but for my sanity, I can't go on. For my kids futures I can't go on.
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Dinoraw · 23/06/2018 21:34
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