I've name changed and it's my first post in AIBU, so deep breath.
My dh's brother and his partner emigrated to Aus a few years back and have subsequently had 3 children.
We had never thought that we'd be able to afford to visit them, but as they visit the UK every 1-2 years we have seen them several times which has been lovely.
PILs over last couple of years every now and then asked if we'd ever go over and visit, and we've always said we'd not be able to afford it.
About a year ago they gifted us £10k which we are hugely grateful for. We saved it and were hoping in time to have enough for a much needed extension.
My dh kept toying with the idea of using the money to visit Aus, and I feel awkward as it was a gift from his parents so I don't feel like I can put my foot down and say no.
I did some research, and as it happens we found flights that were much more reasonable than I expected at a certain time of year. We decided we would go.
When we told PILs, they were pleased and said they were also going to come. Great! (I get on well with them, and the children adore them, how lovely for them to spend time with their sons and grandchildren all together).
Fast forward a few weeks and it turns out they have booked their flights (they are going for a month) to come back a week before we fly out there.
I am so hurt. They clearly don't want to spend time with us!! My dh thinks I'm insane for being hurt because they just want to spend 'undiluted' time with the Aus family. I cannot fathom why they didn't leave a few days overlap at least.
For info, dh Aus family have plenty of room for us all to be comfy in, but we would be also staying with other friends so it's not a space issue.
We don't see PILs that often (maybe 3- 4 times a year) as they are so busy, which is great for them. They live 2 hours away.
I just don't want to go now. I want to use the money for the extension again. Dh says we cannot let his brother down just because I feel hurt.
I know it's a nice problem to have in some ways, but AIBU??
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PutYourBackIntoit · 22/06/2018 14:01
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