I’ll start by saying my husband has never been violent towards me, nor does he have much of a temper. Our relationship is good, married 12 years, no drama, very much equals.
However, he is a bit weird, let’s say, in times of panic/crisis, even mild.
Eg today I injured myself quite badly doing some gardening - scissor related, lots of blood etc! I am a bit of a baby when it comes to blood and started to flap a bit and wouldn’t let him look. His response was to grab my wrist quite forcefully and shove my hand under a cold tap while trying to get a look.
Another time, I was very upset about a close family member’s sudden death (a child) and was sobbing hard and having a bit of a panic attack, I think. Instead of comforting me he looked really freaked out and eventually stood over me and held his hand over my mouth to ‘calm me down’ - he said he also was worried i would wake the children
I’ll say again that he is totally normal in any other situation, lovely even
So today I tried to explain that I didn’t like the idea that he could use force and that it was my body, that if I didn’t want to be touched - even on the premise that it was to offer help - then he had absolutely no right to do so.
He responded that a doctor in a&e would have to use force when dealing with a hand injury/mild is panic attack - but that’s not the case at all is it?
Sorry if I’m rambling- just trying to get my thoughts clear
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SoftAsACactus · 22/06/2018 13:39
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