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Aibu and not volunteer again

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Metoodear Fri 22-Jun-18 07:39:25

So I got myself on a very important volunteer job 6 months ago as I was only working one day a week

So thought I would do some good recently I had to resign as I have a pt job 3 days a week and tbh the volunteer job needs doing well and I wouldn’t have the time as I don’t want to a shit job because I am trying to do to much

Sent a lovey letter about how much I had enjoyed myself and thanked them for the opportunity

I didn’t even get a smiley face emoji back
Ducking rude or is it just me and they wonder why they struggle to get people

Aibu to think I should of got even a email thanking me for my time

ICantCopeAnymore Fri 22-Jun-18 07:45:08

There is so much wrong with this post I can't even be bothered to get started.

FrumpingtonSmythe Fri 22-Jun-18 07:46:28

I think when you volunteer you shouldn't expect any gratitude. I've been helping out doing something for the past 3 years. Most of the time the volunteers and myself got moaned at, told what we were doing wrong and told things were not up to standard and took too long. That was mostly because there were 5 of us doing a 20 person job.

I have resigned and finish in a couple of weeks. Mostly the others are annoyed that I am leaving. I don't blame them. I blame the people who sit on their arses and do nothing whilst others do all the graft.

Beebiesandcheebies Fri 22-Jun-18 07:46:44

When did you send the email? Did they usually respond to your emails?

tenbob Fri 22-Jun-18 07:47:40

You resigned and you wanted them to send you a gushing letter about how amazing you were to have volunteered? confused

ConciseandNice Fri 22-Jun-18 07:47:55

You want gratitude texts back? I don’t know where to start.

Metoodear Fri 22-Jun-18 07:49:44

No just a thank you for your service

I sent the email about two weeks ago I actually really enjoyed working their and the people were lovey got on really well and if I felt I could do both things I would of stayed so just gutted not even a thanks for your work
I don’t think that arrogant

Nikephorus Fri 22-Jun-18 07:50:28

Bear in mind that you've only been doing it for 6 months. Now they have to find someone new to replace you and potentially train them up. I'm not sure why you'd expect gushing thanks for such a short-term stint (though a brief acknowledgement would be polite)

Brunsdon1 Fri 22-Jun-18 07:51:00

You chose to volunteer ...and whilst I think volunteers should absolutely be recognised for their hard work and dedication (I truly believe it's amazing)

Having managed literally hundreds of volunteers over the last 18 years I can see your behaviour from ten paces

You want the self important ego strokes and them to thank you for deigning to help them

And got narky about how well they recruit when you didn't get a parade

Hmmm yep dealt with that....

Plus a smiley face emoji is only a legitimate validation for you if you are a 12 year old

Metoodear Fri 22-Jun-18 07:52:37

I didn’t say gushing but some sort of thanks or anything

Cacti Fri 22-Jun-18 07:54:47

I've managed hundreds of volunteers and I don't think YABU. A thank you is so easy to do and at least maintaining a positive relationship with someone leaving a voluntary position means they're likely to recommend you as a place to volunteer.

Word of mouth is the most powerful way to get people in to volunteering.

DoJo Fri 22-Jun-18 07:55:01

Is the person you sent your resignation to also a volunteer?

massivelyouting Fri 22-Jun-18 07:55:14

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Whatshallidonowpeople Fri 22-Jun-18 07:55:21

I hope you weren't doing anything in a capacity that required grammar!

Metoodear Fri 22-Jun-18 07:55:47

Well fair enough

They struggled to recruit I gave up my time I had to get paid work but would of stayed if I could and
Just a thank you would of been nice

It wasn’t for a charity it was for the council and i really enjoyed the work

Sevendown Fri 22-Jun-18 07:56:23

6 months is more hassle than it’s worth for a volunteer coordinator

RedSkyAtNight Fri 22-Jun-18 07:56:25

So they never thanked you when you actually went to help? Didn't thank you for what you've done when you told them you were having to give up? If that's really the case, then you are right to feel unappreciated. But not replying to a letter doesn't really mean anything. Actually I always think a letter should be replied to with a letter, which takes time to produce so it might still be on someone's "to do" list.

missmouse101 Fri 22-Jun-18 07:57:37

It's should HAVE got and would HAVE stayed. Gratitude is sadly a dying art and their reaction was disappointing but not worth fretting over. Good for you for writing to them. I'm sure your help was really appreciated!

MsMartini Fri 22-Jun-18 07:57:52

I am a volunteer for a national organisation that has nearly 1000 volunteers. Leaving volunteers have an "exit interview", partly to thank them for their service. We have regular events at which we are thanked, and my managers also regularly add specific thanks to emails etc, if I have gone the extra mile.

I don't expect it, it isn't why I do it, but I do think it is important that volunteers' efforts are made visible and public in this way, never mind the effect on the individual.

Metoodear Fri 22-Jun-18 07:58:44


I hope you weren't doing anything in a capacity that required grammar!biscuit

I don’t mind being attacked for my post but actually I won’t have you being a dick about my capacity to spell

PurpleWithRed Fri 22-Jun-18 08:03:48

You should have had a thank you, but in my experience of volunteering with a very large organisation you won't get one. It infuriates me.

DerelictWreck Fri 22-Jun-18 08:08:13

Grammar isn't spelling.

I believe Whatshallidonowpeople may, just may, have been referring to the lack of full stops etc in your original post. Made it very difficult to read...

RedSkyAtNight Fri 22-Jun-18 08:08:14

Not realising that it is "should have" rather than "should of" is due to lack of knowledge, rather than bad spelling. Personally I like people to tell me if I'm making mistakes, rather than letting me perpetuate them. If you never have to write anything that matters, please carry on. But if you ever have to complete a job application or write an important letter, then using "would of" gives a very bad impression.

Metoodear Fri 22-Jun-18 08:11:07

RedSkyAtNight If you read my post I have a job now a clearly made a good impression

I know we’re my academic faults lie thanks and get anything official proof read
I think their is a pendants corner

Outlookmainlyfair Fri 22-Jun-18 08:11:35

I’m with you that is rude. Some acknowledgement would be good for your hard work,
The way you are being attacked on this thread is ridiculous.
Thinking it through though, I wonder did you give notice (or otherwise warn them or just not turn up) or did they need to train you up for the role? If so they could be feeling miffed and hence blanking you?

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