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To think life has just kicked me whilst I was down( death again)

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Likeindie Fri 22-Jun-18 00:48:49

Just getting over my MIL death,then 5 weeks ago my brother was very poorly in ICU with endocarditis was due to have his heart valve replaced tomorrow but died this morning. The infection caused cysts on his lungs he coughed up blood they think the coughing burst a cyst that may have been on a main artery. AIBU to think life has just kicked me while I was down.
He would have been 39 in two weeks.

Koalablue Fri 22-Jun-18 00:54:25

So sorry to hear that. Hope you have lots of support.
My fil died while i was attending my infant nieces funeral. The shock and numbness is unbelievable.

LankinMcElf Fri 22-Jun-18 00:57:33

Bloody hell thats harsh op, I’m so very sorry. I can’t really offer anything of any value just thoughts n love.

PanannyPanoo Fri 22-Jun-18 00:58:26

So very sorry for all you are going through at the moment. Such a lot to process you must be reeling.
Please accept this hug and sympathy from a stranger. I am so sorry.

imweirdandcool Fri 22-Jun-18 01:02:20


Monty27 Fri 22-Jun-18 01:03:35

So sorry op. flowers

Likeindie Fri 22-Jun-18 01:11:29

Thanks, I just cannot believe this has happened, I txt him last night to say the hospital he was being transferred to was a good one and not to worry. ( he was very scared of the operation) my mum spoke to him this morning early he wanted shorts a pillow that had cool gel in and was about to go for a shower. Koala that’s just shit.
I hope he didn’t suffer/know.

TheGirlWhoWasntThere Fri 22-Jun-18 01:25:23

I'm so sorry.


WhenISnappedAndFarted Fri 22-Jun-18 01:39:37

OP I'm so sorry flowers

In the last few months I've lost 4 family members and I understand how it feels like it's one thing after another and you feel like it'll never stop. I found myself worrying everytime my phone rang that it would be someone else.

Have you got anyone who can support you during this time?

SpareASquare Fri 22-Jun-18 01:49:58

So very sorry to hear this OP. My thoughts are with you

Italiangreyhound Fri 22-Jun-18 02:30:32

I am so sorry for your losses. thanks

Teachtolive Fri 22-Jun-18 03:37:59

I'm so sorry for your losses

MyOtherUsernameisaPun Fri 22-Jun-18 06:35:56

I'm so terribly sorry. That is so cruel. I hope you have love and support around you flowers

Wuss2018 Fri 22-Jun-18 06:47:11

My husband passed away on Wednesday aged 38, leaving me and 2 children.

yousignup Fri 22-Jun-18 06:50:45

Oh no, how sad and yes, unfair. I am sorry. Also for @Wuss2018. I am sorry.

stopfuckingshoutingatme Fri 22-Jun-18 07:28:59

It’s just too much OP flowers

This is being a grown adult sadly . Loss and death . I don’t say that to be morbid but I really hear you .

Look after yourself - 2 losses is a lot so accept that you will be haywIre and grieving for a while . And traumatised

I am sorry flowers

Likeindie Fri 22-Jun-18 08:01:43

Oh my whenisnapped how the hell are you managing.
wuss2018 that is just devastating I hope you have help.
I have support ( sort of) husband is not very good tbh at this sort of stuff, but my hubby is a whole different post on another board and one I have not been brave enough to write yet!

londonrach Fri 22-Jun-18 08:33:04

Sorry for you losses op. Sadly it seems to go like this.

WhenISnappedAndFarted Fri 22-Jun-18 16:30:12

@Likeindie I think somehow you find away to cope. I feel like I've just been going through the motions the last few months.

I'm so sorry you're going through it, we all experience losses at some point but it bloody hurts each and everytime flowers

gamerwidow Fri 22-Jun-18 16:32:22

Life is very cruel and unfair sometimes. So sorry for your loss I hope you have someone IRL who is looking out for you and taking care of you right now.

Wellfuckmeinbothears Fri 22-Jun-18 16:33:59

So sorry for your losses flowers

gamerwidow Fri 22-Jun-18 16:34:15

P.s. remember it’s ok not to be ok. Take your own time to grieve.

annandale Fri 22-Jun-18 16:34:40

Awful losses and so young. I'm so sorry.

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