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AIBU?

WIBU to leave 3 month old and 21 month old for 2 nights?

18 replies

Smarshian · 21/06/2018 21:57

I have a week old baby and an 18 month old. I have been invited to attend a work jolly to Majorca all expenses paid for 3 days/ 2 nights in September.
I will still be on maternity leave and plan to continue breastfeeding my youngest (assuming he will take a bottle of expressed milk) and will express enough milk to last the few days. DH is happy to take a few days of work for me to go but do you think it's too early to leave the littlest? I didn't leave DD overnight until I'd stopped breastfeeding at 6 months and feeling guilty for considering leaving youngest sooner.

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Lolacherrycola78 · 21/06/2018 21:59

No go and enjoy x

SugarIsAmazing · 21/06/2018 22:02

I personally wouldn't but only because it's abroad.
I would if it was in the UK.

Footballmumofthefuture · 21/06/2018 22:02

Nope go!

TroubledLichen · 21/06/2018 22:03

They’ll be with their dad so providing the younger one is happy to take a bottle then I’d do it and enjoy the break.

MaryShelley1818 · 21/06/2018 22:03

As long as you’re comfortable with it definitely go and enjoy!!
I went away for 3nts to Spain last month to celebrate a milestone Birthday. DS (then 5mths) had a fantastic few days with his Daddy and tbh barely noticed I was gone! And that was a shock as he was a BF, co-sleeping little limpet baby! Did us both the world of good x

C0untDucku1a · 21/06/2018 22:03

Thats a lot of pumping!

Also, thats nkt leaving your children. It is going away while their father has them.

Go. Enjoy.

Thehop · 21/06/2018 22:06

No way, not if you’re breastfeeding. Though the thought of being away from mine makes me feel a bit sick and if you’re happy to do it then it doesn’t matter what we think!

SpiritedLondon · 21/06/2018 22:10

This is one of those questions that other people can’t answer for you... it comes down to your family and situation. I would not have left my dd at 3 months irrespective of who was looking after her. Certainly not while trying to pump. 3 months is still pretty tiny.

SamHeughansLeftEyebrow · 21/06/2018 22:11

I would, and did. Left a freezer drawer full of milk and went away for 48 hours for KIT with work. Got snowed in and had to stay another 24 hours. I pumped (a lot) while away to maintain supply, had some 'interesting' discussions involving an over the clothes demonstration with airport security staff about what the pump was because I wouldn't be separated from it, just in case it went missing in transit! Baby was fine with DH and MIL. He was very happy to see my boobs back again!!

BoxsetsAndPopcorn · 21/06/2018 22:24

No but I think holidays are family so would either take them with me or not go. A night out at that age I'd be fine with if they were with my DH.

Smarshian · 21/06/2018 22:27

Well I can hardly take the whole family on a work trip can I?
I do worry about pumping while I'm away too.

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Banana8080 · 21/06/2018 22:40

Go go go!!!

mummy2oneandtwo · 21/06/2018 22:40

Nope, go!!!

I went to Portugal for a work jolly while my twins were little and I was still on maternity leave, I had a great time!

SeriousSimon · 21/06/2018 22:40

I wouldn't leave a 3 month old baby tbh, and definitely not if bf.

IME tiny bf babies get so much more than food from breastfeeding...it's also their comfort to a huge degree (was with mine anyway). My youngest would have been inconsolable at that age without being able to feed for a weekend.

Namelesswonder · 21/06/2018 22:45

Go for it

Chocolateismyvice · 21/06/2018 22:55

Most people on here but probably would say go for it. But personally no, I couldn't do it, especially not when breastfeeding. There's no right or wrong and depends entirely how you feel, etc.

Not really sure why I wouldn't go as DP is a wonderful hands on father, very capable and theyd have a blast together, I just wouldn't want to be so far away from DC I suppose.

Do whatever you feel is right and if your DH is happy to take time off work, and your baby is okay taking a bottle, there's no reason not to go.

Tiptoethr0ughthetulips · 21/06/2018 22:57

I couldn't tbh, not only because both of mine bottle refused but because the pang of separation would just be too much. Not a popular view but I just feel like they're little for such a short time it's not such a big deal to miss a few jollies.

helpmefindaring · 21/06/2018 23:04

I went away for a weekend which was basically one long pub crawl when she was ebf and I pumped and dumped the weekend.

I wouldn't worry leaving two kids with their dad for the weekend.

Go. Have fun. And speak to other adults

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