Nc for this but I'm long time poster and lurker.
I have been friends with someone for a long time, since our dc were in pre school. Our dc have always fought, 1 min best friends and the next enemies so we tend to not get involved and let them work it out. They are now not very good friends, they play sometimes but not really.
They are now in yr 4 and whilst my dc isn't an angel, they are never in trouble, regularly have praise and I see their behaviour in school as I am a TA as well. They are not unkind, cheeky sometimes but not unkind (I wouldn't tolerate it).
Friends dc is also a lovely child but can be quite nasty at times, there have been multiple incidence's of lying, manipulation, hurting etc. Friend tries her very best although she parents differently to myself I don't necessarily think she is wrong on any front.
One weekend my dc stopped eating, wouldn't touch anything and was getting lethargic, finally managed to find out what had happened and friends dc have told my dc they were fat (they are not 50% percentile for weight) and it had really upset them.
For the record there have been multiple things like lying, hitting my dc, saying mean things etc and I've always told my friend and she has told her dc off but nothing changes.
Its a shame because when they are being nice, they are a pleasure to have around but when they are being mean its horrible to see. I've seen them hit another child because they thought they were prettier or whispering to much younger children about how they will do mean things to their parents, they even killed a nest of baby birds that the yr 6 had found.
Anyway this weekend in question I was livid and I've had enough so I bypassed my friend and went straight to the teacher, for the teacher it was the last straw due to other things so friends dc was given a punishment which was effective.
But I feel so guilty, my friend sees the best in her dc (because its her baby) my friend keeps mentioning it to me and I cringe inside knowing I cannot tell her it was me.
My friend thinks her dc is blameless and wouldn't ever be as mean as someone has complained but the truth is, they have. I hate to admit it but its horrible to see sometimes.
was I unreasonable? I would of gone to my friend but nothing would of been done really. She would of been upset, disappointed and she is my friend, a very good friend.
I feel crap about it all to be honest.
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mrwolf1234 · 21/06/2018 21:45
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