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AIBU & grabby?

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worthsolittle1 Thu 21-Jun-18 20:37:53

First post so may be a bit long I've been with my partner for over 3 years and i have 3 children he has none that live with him.
He has recently rented out his house to help pay off his debts quicker moved in with us & said he will pay me £150.
I work full time earn 3 times less than him I'm not broke but neither am I rolling in money I feel a little sad that that's all he thinks I'm worth I think I'm being a little unreasonable as I'd still have all my bills to pay if he wasn't living here.

I had an ex who used me to pay off debt promised marriage and strung me along till everything was in my name then went off with another woman. I don't want to be a mug again but neither do I want to come across as money grabbing sad

teaandtoast Thu 21-Jun-18 20:40:41

Can you work out how much extra he'll be costing you and then ask for that?

MyNewAlias Thu 21-Jun-18 20:40:57

£150.00, a month , week one off?

worthsolittle1 Thu 21-Jun-18 20:41:43

Sorry £150 a month

outofmydepth45 Thu 21-Jun-18 20:42:09

Is he contributing to the house in other ways i.e. childcare, consumables ?

RandomMess Thu 21-Jun-18 20:42:16

He's a cocklodger!

RepealRepealRepeal Thu 21-Jun-18 20:42:26

Bills should be split equally or according to wage. If the rent is paying off his debt, why can't he pay more of his actual paycheck to the household.

Did you mean that he has no kids, or he has no access to his kids?

ZenNudist Thu 21-Jun-18 20:43:16

Why did you let him do this?????


How does £150/ week measure up to your costs for mortgage bills council tax food water etc?

ZenNudist Thu 21-Jun-18 20:44:00

Xpost A MONTH????? 😨😨😨

Justmuddlingalong Thu 21-Jun-18 20:44:33

He's using you to get himself out of debt. I suggest you tell him living together obviously isn't going to work. He is indeed an A+ cocklodger.

ginswinger Thu 21-Jun-18 20:44:50

Is that £150 a week or a month? If it's the former, that's woefully inadequate, principally because you will lose benefits (assuming you're claiming any) if you're a couple together. I would suggest you split everything in half, rent, bills, food and so forth. That's equal and fair on you.

Returnofthesmileybar Thu 21-Jun-18 20:45:24

£150 a month so he can clear his debt? So basically you are clearing his debt too? Fuck that! Cocklodger is right! Yanbu

SaltyPeanut Thu 21-Jun-18 20:45:46

Fucking hell, that's peanuts.

Awooga, Awooga, Cock lodger alert.

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo Thu 21-Jun-18 20:46:10

He’s a chancer isn’t he? £150 a month to cover his rent, food and bills?? 😂

AnneLovesGilbert Thu 21-Jun-18 20:46:20

How much was his rent previously?

What’s the £150 meant to be for? Rent AND bills (you’ll lose your council tax discount now) AND food etc?

On the basis of what you’ve written he’s taking the absolute piss and I’d be feeling incredibly insulted.

It should be a discussion, not an opportunity to abuse your goodwill and chuck you some meagre housekeeping ffs.

worthsolittle1 Thu 21-Jun-18 20:46:47

No he doesn't contribute in other ways we take iit in turns & buy the odd takeaway night out etc

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo Thu 21-Jun-18 20:46:56

I’m guessing you lose out on tax credits and single person council tax now that he’s moved in OP?

Fairyliz Thu 21-Jun-18 20:47:00

What will the £150 cover? Is it just towards rent or is it suppose to cover utilities, food etc?

KettleBells Thu 21-Jun-18 20:48:06

He's using you get rid or tell him live elsewhere

Bluntness100 Thu 21-Jun-18 20:48:15

He's renting out his house and earning three times more than you and giving you 40 odd quid a week? What's that to include?

How much debt does he have?

AnneLovesGilbert Thu 21-Jun-18 20:48:18

Then no, that’s not bloody okay. You and he should both want both of your lives to be easier for you and all of your children.

Do you have space in your home for his DC to come and stay?

arethereanyleftatall Thu 21-Jun-18 20:48:18

£150 a month for everything? Rent, bills, food?
That's a tiny amount if so.
What are your outgoings?

Lookatyourwatchnow Thu 21-Jun-18 20:48:27

Hilarious! What a muppet.

outofmydepth45 Thu 21-Jun-18 20:49:12

He earns three times more and doesn't cover his costs or contribute. He is using you majorly. Get rid !

catinboots9 Thu 21-Jun-18 20:49:12

£150 a month? shock

Fucking piss staking arsehole.

'you'd be paying the bills anyway' - classic cocklodger reasoning.

Tell him get to fuck. Why should you subsidise his debts???

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