Is it possible to find experienced nannies happy to do a day or night as a one off at short notice?
I’m not sure why I’m asking though as don’t think I would be comfortable leaving my lovely baby with a stranger.
All I want is to sleep! I’ve been coping so well but tonight I’ve hit a wall and feel like I physically can’t carry on no matter what I try. I’m having to slap my face to stay awake. Usually I try lots of water, quick bursts of energy etc but it feels like the battery is now totally flat!
Normally I do nights but DH took baby tonight for a while although she needed feeding very soon and he’s driving a lot tomorrow for work so I’ve told him to go back to bed. He’s away tomorrow night and I don’t know what to do!
Very possible OP. I had similar when DD1 was a baby and I was a lone parent.
I was lucky as one of the mums at the nursery had a nanny who did most pick ups so was able to have a word with her and she was more than happy to help out. Start off a very casual arrangement- one or two nights a month, but then she started having her for 6 hours at a weekend so I could catch up on sleep (and housework!)
Carried on the arrangement once a month up until DD was 11 and DS had come along as it was time me and ex spent together
At a baby show three years ago there was a company called night nannies or something. They did just this, they were trained nurses actually but specialised in overnight care for any child. I think they worked in the London area but there may well be others.
What I did when we moved and I knew no one (in case of emergencies because DH is away a lot rather than for sleep as DS is older now) was organise a nanny for a few play dates so she got to know DS and then she’s on call if needed.
There are nanny agencies which may fit the bill, or if you have funds a maternity nurse may be what you need. But the cost is a thing. If you happen to be in a family area you may find a qualified nanny who is looking for babysitting- I know where I was, sw london, it wasn't unusual to be asked for qualifications and a reference for a babysitting job, usually just wanted to speak to my boss and proof I had first aid/level 3 childcare. What I mean is a babysitter needn't be an unqualified teen, but qualified and experienced, but obviously with a higher cost.
In my darkest hour baby took pity on me and just slept two hours! So I have found some more energy to carry on. Once DH is back I will get him involved more too as I do almost all baby care atm (but tbh I am usually happy to)
No family nearby so nobody to take baby - a bath sounds like a different world!
A night nanny would be ideal - can’t afford a maternity nurse long term but as a one off it would really help! Question is where to start - I might try Facebook community page rather than agency (but would check qualifications) we would like to go by localbr commendation it possible as not sure about a stranger looking after baby!