AIBU to think unless you have a real reason to think that DP is up to something, that snooping is totally out of order?
I see so many threads on here where people have stumbled across their partners' old texts, old emails, old photographs, old social media messages etc etc from years previously, but it's always miraculously 'by accident'
Am I alone in thinking that this just doesn't happen that often and you'd be really unlucky, out of all the things that you could stumble across, to stumble across this.
Now, I have been guilty of this. I snapped on my ex boyfriend's phone years ago, because I just knew he was cheating and needed to prove it before I left. Turns out he was, with my friend. I truly believe that the only situation in which this is ok is when you have a real solid reason to believe that cheating or dishonesty is occurring.
Current DP - very happy, never snooped, know he probably had an old email or two somewhere (I probably do too) - doesn't give me the right to read them!
I would be gutted if I knew DP went through my phone or laptop expecting to find something. Of course he wouldn't find anything other than photos of my old dog!
AIBU to think that we live in a snooping culture where people often aren't allowed privacy and that ease of digital communications seems to create this vast distrust of those around us? Yes, cheating happens, a lot, but I feel that snooping 9 times out of ten appears to leave people finding things from their partners' pasts. To me, this is a big boundary to cross.
I hope my post makes sense. I've written it pretty quickly so sorry if it's a bit jumbled! I'm genuinely curious as I see this so much on here...
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OhBabyNoName · 20/06/2018 19:36
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