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AIBU to think the school are being ridiculous

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happytoseeyou Tue 19-Jun-18 17:28:54

My DD (6) gets very rosy cheeks when she is tired. We attended a wedding at the weekend and she had a later bedtime than normal.

I took her to school as normal on Monday and as soon as I got into work I had a call from the school stating I had to go and collect her as they believed she has slapped cheek. I explained on the phone that she gets very pink cheeks when she is tired and she'd had a couple of late nights over the weekend, so there was nothing to worry about. They said they had the other children to consider and couldn't take my work for it and I had to collect her immediately.

When I arrived at the school the receptionist went to get her and and walked over to a large group of children sitting on the floor being read to. I asked if they were so concerned they why wasn't she in isolation they said they would get the head to talk to me, but I said to not bother as I had to get back to work. (luckily my mum was able to have her while I went back to work)

She still had rosy cheeks this morning so I called them to ask what their policy is as the NHS guidelines say that there is no need to be off school for slapped cheek, and they have said until I get a letter from a doctor giving DD the all clear then she won't be accepted back in school!

AIBU to not to want to waste NHS time to prove my DD isn't unwell, and even if she had slapped cheek (which she def hasn't) then the school should be in line with NHS advice and allow her to attend.

Footballmumofthefuture Tue 19-Jun-18 17:34:59


PotteringAlong Tue 19-Jun-18 17:36:16

Print off the NHS advice and take her in.

MissBartlettsconscience Tue 19-Jun-18 17:37:48

Yanbu but schools seem to not be aware of nhs guidance on slapped cheek (even if it was). I second printing off the guidance and sending DD back in with it tomorrow.

rabbitmat Tue 19-Jun-18 17:42:47

Could your child's teacher be pregnant? If she was, she would not be allowed to work in the class. Perhaps there was no one to cover her so the school decided to send your DD home instead.

soapboxqueen Tue 19-Jun-18 17:44:42

By the time a child actually has red cheeks (if they ever show that symptoms at all) they have already been contagious which is why the NHS don't suggest seclusion. That and most people get the virus at some point with no symptoms.

They may have a pregnant member of staff and have jumped off the deep end.

youarenotkiddingme Tue 19-Jun-18 17:51:27

When my ds has slapped cheek (after a dose of tonsillitis he'd already been off for) the school told me I didn't need to keep him home unless he was unwell (unwell enough to be off iyswim?)

sharkirasharkira Tue 19-Jun-18 18:16:05

I had the same thing when the DC's had some kind of rash - it wasn't at all similar to chickenpox and went away within 24hrs but they refused to let them back in the school until I had visited a doctor and been told the same thing. Did feel like a massive waste of time but they were idiots for many many different reasons so just wouldn't be told.

Dahlietta Tue 19-Jun-18 18:19:21

No, YANBU. When my DS had slapped cheek, I took him to the doctor who said he was fine to go into school as they're not contagious when the rash appears. He said the rash might get worse though, but it was nothing to worry about. I took him into school and relayed this. They said fine. I took him back the next day - they refused to take him because the rash was worse. I reminded them what the doctor had said. Nope, they made me take him back to the doctor so he could say exactly the same thing and I could take him back to school again. Sigh.

Dolphinswimmingupsidedown Tue 19-Jun-18 18:20:17

So they’ve excluded your child from school for no reason?

happytoseeyou Wed 20-Jun-18 08:15:17

That is correct - they have excluded my child for no reason!

I am heading there now armed with the print out of the NHS guidelines, wish me luck.

youarenotkiddingme Wed 20-Jun-18 17:59:52

How did it go?

Pengggwn Wed 20-Jun-18 18:05:19

What's the school sickness policy?

disahsterdahling Wed 20-Jun-18 18:14:37

Just say you can't get a GP appointment for 3 weeks (in my surgery it could be 6 weeks as you have to see your own GP so if they are on holiday/not there for any reason you can't have a face to face appointment, you can only have a telephone triage and then they'll decide if another GP should see you).

Pengggwn Wed 20-Jun-18 18:26:03

What's the school sickness policy?

Pengggwn Wed 20-Jun-18 18:26:20

Sorry double post.

Racecardriver Wed 20-Jun-18 18:29:03

Slapped cheek has already passed the point where it is contagious when the rash appears. I would make a complaint to the school for wasting your time.

WombatStewForTea Wed 20-Jun-18 18:36:34

I'm a teacher.
I'd put money on there being a pregnant member of staff somewhere. We'd send home for suspected slap check but would take your word the next day if you said it was something else

Littlebluebird123 Wed 20-Jun-18 18:58:53

It may not help but what I thought was slapped cheek (and therefore ok to go to school) turned out to be scarlet fever. Which wasn't ok for dd to be at school until she'd had 24hrs of antibiotics.
So in that case, I'm glad I did go to the doctor and check.
Parents often don't check, or lie about when their child was last sick etc. So if they'd had a lot of this (not necessarily you, but in general) then they may be trying to be more strict to prevent having contagious diseases around school.

Fromage Wed 20-Jun-18 19:19:11

So the school has diagnosed your dd with slapped cheek and that diagnosis stands until disproved?

Ask to see the medical qualifications of whoever examined your dd without your permission.

happytoseeyou Thu 21-Jun-18 11:55:52

Hi Thanks for all your replies.

I went to school yesterday with the printout and again stated that there was nothing wrong with DD, she has no fever, is eating well, and is her usual self (other than rosy cheeks). They refused to accept her back without confirmation I taken taken her to the GP. They even called me irresponsible ....there is nothing wrong with her!

I left without saying anything (as I couldn't trust myself not to yell) and I took her to our GP surgery where I had to wait for 1.5 hours to be seen, to be told she doesn't have a temperature, or breathing difficulties and has no symptoms of illness or virus so there is no reason to keep her off school.

This morning I returned to school, I dropped a letter into reception advising I had been to the GP and as I predicted she has been given a clean bill of health so would be returning to school today. I then went to the classroom entrance where the teacher stopped DD from entering and said, 'has this been approved'?
I asked 'has what been approved' and they said did I have approval to take DD back into school.
I said very calmly there is nothing wrong with her, there has never been anything wrong with her and the GP has verified this.

As I turned to walk away the teacher shouted 'you need to take this up with the office I will not argue with you in front of the other children'. I hadn't raised my voice so was quite surprised with this response, I just said 'I have notified the office that DD is returning to school' and left.

But I am furious, this whole thing is ridiculous, they send letters constantly about the importance of attendance stats and yet have enforced a 3 day absence, for no reason. Other than this episode, we have had 1 day off this year ... because the school was closed, because of the snow.

I do not understand their approach, their reasoning, their attitude and when I have calmed down a bit I will go and talk to the head. At the moment I feel I have kept my composure, but I think I need a couple of days distance ... otherwise I may crack!

PrivateDoor Thu 21-Jun-18 12:04:39

I would definitely organise a meeting with the head and class teacher. They have been incredibly rude to you and I would find it hard to engage positively with the school after that. Have a meeting and explain your viewpoint.

I have had a similar issue and sent in a letter of complaint, received a standard reply of we are sorry IF you are not happy with our procedures. In my case, my dd had an ongoing issue which the school were aware that she received medical treatment for, but they suddenly decided to google her symptoms and came up with an alternative diagnosis which had already been ruled out clinically. They insisted she was taken out of school just like your dd. I was so angry that they felt they knew more than our GP.

AhWeCanDanceIfWeWantTo Thu 21-Jun-18 12:11:22

shock this isn’t absolute madness!! How much has this cost both you and the NHS??

AhWeCanDanceIfWeWantTo Thu 21-Jun-18 12:11:36


Wolfiefan Thu 21-Jun-18 12:14:11

Bonkers! You do need a meeting. If she's prone to looking flushed you could keep getting the same issue.

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