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To wonder how normal it is for kids to share rooms these days?

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ChickenOrEgg6 Tue 19-Jun-18 12:34:23

Inspired by a post I saw earlier (different forum) about how kids dont really share rooms these days, it's not the 70's, kids shouldn't have to share unless there's no possible way at all to move...
I have 2 DD's, one isn't yet 1 and is in a cot in my room but will be sharing with the eldest when she moves into a bed (I only have a 2 bed house) Aibu to wonder how normal it is for kids to share these days? Is there a reason some people are so militant about kids having their own rooms?

Kingsclerelass Tue 19-Jun-18 12:39:38

I don’t know what other people regard as normal but my two nieces choose to share as do my two nephews. They both have decent size rooms, and are both close in age (primary years) so natural play mates.

hmmwhatatodo Tue 19-Jun-18 12:42:18

We have no choice but to share. Cost of renting unfortunately.

BlueBug45 Tue 19-Jun-18 12:42:54

Richer kids don't share, while poorer kids are lucky to have a bedroom let alone one they share with a sibling.

NewtScamandersNaughtyNiffler Tue 19-Jun-18 12:43:21

Most families I know have dc who share a room.
Although a lot of people seem to think there's a law against more then 2 dc per room.

user1485342611 Tue 19-Jun-18 12:45:13

My nephews (aged 16 and 13) share a room. The only other option would be to put one of them in the converted attic which doesn't have a door and is only separated from the landing by a staircase and some railings.

It's worked fine for them.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat Tue 19-Jun-18 12:45:18

DS is 4 and currently has a large room to himself. We’re moving his twin sisters out of our room and into his as soon as they start sleeping through. The three of them will share until high school hopefully. We do have a third bedroom but I want them to have the special relationship that supposedly comes from sharing a room as small children. All my friends who shared a room as kids said it was great. I think by high school we’ll be making sure they all have their own space though.

Mrsharrison Tue 19-Jun-18 12:46:28

I loved sharing with my two sisters as a kid. In bed, whispering and giggling. It was soothing and very bonding.
Once I hit my teens I wanted my own bedroom.

Want2bSupermum Tue 19-Jun-18 12:46:38

Umm richer people have their DC share. We live in the NYC area. It's $1000 a sqft. Kids share. We have 3 sharing one bedroom. I know of only 2 families who don't have their DC share. Normally you give your DC the master bedroom and take the 'kids' one for yourselves and make the walk in closet their playroom.

Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname Tue 19-Jun-18 12:47:20

Dd's 11+12 have and will always share.
Ds's 9+3 also share.
Good for learning to share, be considerate and tidy imo!!

EmmalinaC Tue 19-Jun-18 12:49:16

We have a 5-bed house but my DD's (now aged 9 and 12) share a room by choice and always have done! They use what would have been the other bedroom as a playroom/dump.

They do get along very well though. At the weekends they like to sleep in the same bed smile

Johnnycomelately1 Tue 19-Jun-18 12:50:46

I know you probably mean UK, but as a perspective, I live in HK and most kids share- I cant think of a family with 3+ DC where there's no sharing for example.

ZispinAndTurmericLatte Tue 19-Jun-18 12:51:30

My DB and his wife weren't poor and have a decent sized house, but their children shared, until the older ones got closer to being teenagers and actively wanted their own space. They all seemed perfectly happy sharing as children.

Brendatheblender Tue 19-Jun-18 12:54:22

DS 3 and DS 2 share a room. It’s not ideal and we are hoping to move when we can afford too.

BlueBug45 Tue 19-Jun-18 12:54:30

@Want2bSupermum I'm in London were poorer families frequently are overcrowded so have people sleeping in the living room or children sleeping in their parents bedroom. On the other hand rich families often have more bedrooms than people. (And yes I know both. )

charityhallet Tue 19-Jun-18 12:59:37

Contrary to usual mumsnet convention, I have a 10yo and 9yo of different sexes sharing & they have since they were tiny and moved on from our room. Its not ideal and we are hoping things improve for us soon, but it is possible -and frustrating when people tell you it's against 'the law'. We also have DC3 in with us for the foreseeable.

swimmerlab Tue 19-Jun-18 13:00:02

My children share by choice. They have their own rooms but don't want to separate, it's lovely!

Titsywoo Tue 19-Jun-18 13:00:07

My two shared until my eldest was about 7 - it was through choice though as we had spare rooms.

anklebitersmum Tue 19-Jun-18 13:00:47

Our girls (biter no's 2 and 4) share, it's simply a number of rooms thing. They get the biggest room and have high sleepers so there's still plenty of floor space while the boys (biter no's 1 and 3) have a smaller room each. It was discussed 'as a family' when we made the last move so they had an input on what they thought would work best too.

I don't think it does them any harm to share and have to compromise with each other although ideally I'd have a nice, big, double room with walk in wardrobes and an ensuite for each of them of course.

unintentionalthreadkiller Tue 19-Jun-18 13:01:22

DTs so far have chosen to share. We have space to convert if they don't want to any more but at the moment it's a tv room / den for them and they like that space.

Jammycustard Tue 19-Jun-18 13:02:07

We have four bedrooms and my two share.

wendz86 Tue 19-Jun-18 13:02:32

My two who are 3 and 7 share a room. I have a 2 bed house, they are perfectly fine. I know friends whose kids choose to share although they have bigger houses.

Grumpbum Tue 19-Jun-18 13:04:43

My boys 7 and 4 share out of choice they’re inseparable

Want2bSupermum Tue 19-Jun-18 13:04:56

blue I know plenty of not so poor families in London who have their DC share.

We only have 2 bedrooms right now. We don't have any excess rooms without putting drywall up.

Larasshadow Tue 19-Jun-18 13:05:15

DD 11 and DS 6 have to share a room. Not ideal but it works.

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