I have some long standing mental health issues and had horrible postnatal depression for a good year. Was raised in a controlling, emotionally abusive environment which made making friends and socialising with peers very hard, and normal socialising wasn't modelled to me by my parents. My husband has a similar background.
We've both been in therapy and working through why we find navigating groups so hard, amongst other things. We both have a small number of very close friends but new groups freak us the hell out. I've recognised that I probably come over a bit cool for school, or intimidating, or just a bit much, because I'm so scared of rejection that I try and perform like I'm interesting (!) which is obviously a bit of a shit plan. He is also a bit loud and performative which he reckons is about keeping people at a distance before they reject him.
We desperately want our son to have a loving, free and easy home where he can have friends over and develop a social life - all the things we missed out on - but neither of us really have a clue how to go about it! I'm especially sad that my PND made me so isolated from the local networks that could have helped out. We're moving to a new city in Sept and want to prioritise getting involved in the community and making sure DS - who will be 2 - gets more opportunities to socialise etc. We're just petrified we're going to cock it up!
Anyone felt similar? Any tips welcome!
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Whyyounoeatmypie · 14/06/2018 15:43
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