I met a girl at work about 6 years ago, we became really close friends. She arranged my baby shower about 2 years ago. There was a few things though over our friendship she done which made me question her loyalty. Anyway I haven't seen her in a long time. About a year. We both do the same hobby but I chose to go to a different place to her on purpose as she likes to be centre of attention and every one to love her. Couldn't deal with drama and wanted to make new friends. Now the only time she texts is to ask me questions about my group who is rival to hers. Then tries to say miss you let's see each other. I arrange it but never hear from her. Today my group releases the teams and I've just had a text from her saying. Miss you hope you're ok. I know she's trying to fish for info! Should I tell her outright she only wants to know me when she wants info. Really starting to pee me off!
From what you've written it doesn't sound like she's fishing - "miss you, hope you're ok" is quite a nice message. And talking about a shared hobby is pretty normal too. But friends grow apart, if you don't want to spend time with her then don't.
Do your hobbies mean that the two groups will be competing against each other at some point ? ie sporting , pub games , etc . If so then reply to her , along the lines of " I am fine thanks for asking , how are you ? " if she asks about your hobbies or who is in your team etc just be blunt and tell her you are not willing to divulge any information about it . She may just want a friend to talk to about other stuff though so I would give her a chance
Yes we would be competing against each other. I think I will reply but like you say if she mentions the hobby not say anything. Another reason I get this impression is in the Times she's text me in the year, not once has she asked how my DS is either. Which has really annoyed me considering she wanted to know when he was first born.
Does she have any children? Friendships often rely on common interests. From the outside, it sounds like she wants to keep in touch and uses such times to maintain some form of contact. Do you ever contact her first before she's said must meet up? Why not ask her the questions first? If you're not bothered then simply ignore.
Feed her plausible but incorrect info. Claim that it must have changed since you were told when she tells you she knows its wrong. Tell her revised but also differently incorrect info. See how long you can go before she stops asking
I would have thought it's the hobby that reminds her of you. I have a couple of friends who've moved away and I'll think "oh haven't heard from then for a while", but not really have anything specific to say so often will do no more than either think about sending a message or send a general one. Then the common interest comes up and I'll send a message about that then because it's brought them to the front of my mind, plus what I have to say is relevant then.