Posting here for traffic really as we are at are wits end.
Daughter is 14 months any time i leave the house she has a meltdown... it can last 3 hours she ends up crying, screaming goes stiff shakes and vomits. But if i leave her anywhere else but home she is a little teary but calms down quickly. Ive spoken to the hv and she says 'she just knows that you are a safe person to be with abd feels vunrable when your not there' but this reaction seems too much and im not leaving her with just anyone either partner or our parents. Im worried this is signs of somthing more mentally wrong. May just be parranoid but our first dd was nothing like this. Hoping for some advice or own exspeirences to help us how to help her and to hopefully get some peace of mind that someone else has come out the other side of somthing simular.
What happens after she vomits? Does it stop then? I've heard before of kids losing their marbles when a parent leaves and it's like it has to reach a peak and once they're over it then they're fine. Almost like a panic attack
Hello, I do not have a solution but I can sympathise. DS aged 3 done this from 7 months, I worked shifts so DP was there for him but at times there could be a few hours cross over. He would stay with family, he would scream the whole time easily hours solid.
I eventually lost my job and it was a relief when he was 16 months. He is worse than ever now even when I go down stairs he calls me constantly. I suspect some ASD as he has food issues, textures, I am hoping preschool will detach him if not I'll go further.
In hindsight I should have kept leaving him, family did not really want to take him anymore, Was your DD an unsettled baby, he was constantly cried and I think there is a connection as DD1 was no problem to leave.