AIBU to be upset about a facebook group

[Scienceawarenaturalparent]

AIBU staying in a facebook group?

I have had a quick name change!

I'm a member of a large facebook group for natural parents who are also science aware. This group has been a fantastic resource and support network but its all gone wrong. The people running the page all have their own issues and are ganging up on other members for what seems like no reason.

I have thought long and hard about leaving the group because it seems like playground bullying but i just cant seem to do it.

They are great when you need your hand holding and will help you with any problem you could think of. They have a fantastic support network of Nutella addicts and people with difficulties like ADHD and depression I'm not sure there there is a better community.

BUT posting in it can be like stepping onto a nest of vipers. People having mental health problems can be kicked out for no good reason OR supported with people being sent round to check on them or taxis being called and paid for by the group when fleeing a husband. It just depends if you are in with the right crowd or not.

There are many LGBTQ members and there are a lot who are in relationships or who have experimented with eachother and this is causing tension on the group.

I cant seem to leave but i can't seem to stay and I don't even know these people in real life.

[dinosaursandtea]

How is it different than if there were straight people in the group who were in relationships?

[DianaPrincessOfThemyscira]

What is natural parenting and what has that got to do with anything? Ditto everything else?

If you feel some people are being picked on and you don’t get anything out of the group, then leave. You don’t have to explain yourself to strangers on the internet.

[UpstartCrow]

Thats not a support group, its a clique. Just leave, you wont remember who they are in a months time.

[Scienceawarenaturalparent]

The sexuality has nothing to do with it. There are male femail relationships going on too and people who are in 3 part relationships.

[Medea13]

what is natural parenting? (what would be unnatural parenting?!)

[PedroLostHisGlasses]

Really, why are you posting about SANP on here?!

I mean, leave if you want, or if you can't trust the admins to make the decisions they think are best for reasons you don't always know about.

Or stay if you like the support.

It's a Facebook group, there are always times of drama and times when it all settles down again.

[BitchQueen90]

What on earth is natural parenting?

Misses point

[Yokatsu]

Its like anything in life. Do you "gain" more that you "lose" by being in the group? Is the emotional cost of being in the group hurting you personally?

[EmmaSwann]

We had a similar issue with a group that was supposedly set up for people in our area. But it turned into a clique of friends of the admin who bullied others and people being chucked off if they said anything against the clique.

So we set up our own group. And it's well moderated and everyone is nice to each other.

There's nothing stopping you setting up your own group and only having positive people in the group.

If you don't want to do this you have two options. Stay and put up with it. Or leave the group.

[ALiensAbductedMe]

Isn't natural parenting just attachment parenting? How are you science aware? What does this all mean???

[Idontevencareanymore]

Wow this is shitty. Leave the group seeing as you know EXACTLY what's gone down.

[StealthPolarBear]

Nutella addiction?

[VladmirsPoutine]

What is this all about? Natural parenting?

This sounds rather icky tbh.

[TornFromTheInside]

This is typical of many large forums, Mumsnet included.
It's a reflection of human nature I'm afraid, and groups of friends form cliques, often unwittingly. Equally newcomers who have any hint of paranoia can soon feel as though everybody else is out to get them.

It's nice when people remind others of what it's like to be new.

[flopsyrabbit1]

sounds like great entertainment,what are they called

[yougogirl150]

My name is yougogirl150, and I'm a Nutella addict

[MrsPicklesonSmythe]

So its a Parenting group with the parents bunking up together? Sounds fucking weird but it takes all sorts I suppose.
It's only a group. Leave it if it doesn't make you happy. I'm on a similar sized group (yep searched the name above 😂) and have been for 10 years, have made some amazing real life friends that I couldn't be without so I get that it can transfer over into real life but seriously, just fuck it off if it's making you miserable. They've probably all read this now anyway.

[ichifanny]

Most groups like that end up being a pain in the arse , cloth nappies , slings , attachment parenting most tend to attract people who think they are special snowflakes because they go against convention which ends up lots of strong personalities clashing . Horrible .

[RideOn]

Natural parenting? Is this the same as gentle/attachment parenting?
Science aware? Does this mean not anti-vaxx?
Nutella addicts? Is this a joke?
LGBTQ experimenting couples? Does this mean having affairs?

[RideOn]

Seriously though do you feel you are doing a good job supporting people in the group? Do you need support now?

If not, then just leave!

[pannikin]

Why are you even bothered to be posting about SANP here? If you don't like it, just leave. Not difficult.
also bet I can guess who wrote this

[CatsCatsCats11]

Really want to know what this group is called to join

[LellyMcKelly]

Stop getting the notifications. That way you can dip in and out without being reminded of it all the time. Chances are you’ll forget about it after a few months.

[choli]

I noticed similar behavior on two US based natural parenting groups i used to frequent a few years ago. Much cliques and bullying if you dared to express an opinion that differed from that of the queen bees. Seems to go with the natural parenting territory.

[MissusGeneHunt]

That's not a group, it's a freaking cult! 'Natural parents' who are addicted to Nutella, have dodgy relationships / mess with emotions, and sideline those with mental ill health.... Nice. Not. Steer clear! There's better support groups elsewhere.