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tangfantastics Wed 13-Jun-18 16:58:45

I’ve been seeing a new boyfriend for around 4/5 weeks and had dinner with his parents quite a few times within this period. It’s all going fine, he and I are getting along great. But his mother is a different story. On a whole, she’s lovely. Has all the right intentions but is a bit loopy in the fact she is constantly spouting rubbish about a corrupt government alongside conspiracy theories about absolutely everything. The government, baby food, medications.

All fine, I can take it. But she often brings up homophobic comments how men are only meant to be with women and vice versa. BF tells her whenever she says this that it’s the 21stC and she’s wrong. I don’t say anything because he’s already told her but I’m not sure what to do.

I really like BF, falling for him a lot but do I really want to listen to his mothers views? Not really. he lives with parents so she’s pretty unavoidable. What do I do?

Tangled59 Wed 13-Jun-18 17:00:57

Nothing. Shes your boyfriends mother. Theres no problem to solve here. Loads of us arent keen on our in laws.

LOL7 Wed 13-Jun-18 17:01:04

You are in a relationship with him, not his mother. He calls her out on it so obviously doesn't agree with her. Just ignore her silly comments, change the subject whenever the conversation turns that way.
YANBU though, sounds horrible to listen too!

Mousefunky Wed 13-Jun-18 17:02:43

Stop spending so much time with her. I know everyone is different but FOUR WEEKS into a relationship and you’ve already met his mother multiple times? Never heard of this before. I wait months before introducing my OH to anyone.

HirplesWithHaggis Wed 13-Jun-18 17:03:23

Stop accepting her hospitality. You don't need to have dinner with them every week, a month into your new relationship.

tangfantastics Wed 13-Jun-18 17:03:48

Well he lives with her, so she’s about.

crunchtime Wed 13-Jun-18 17:04:27

Why are you spending so much time with his parents when you've only been going out for 4/5 weeks? That's really weird

Vitalogy Wed 13-Jun-18 17:05:29

4/5 weeks and had dinner with his parents quite a few times within this period. That's too much IMHO. These first few weeks should be getting to know him first. I'd cut the visits down drastically.

HirplesWithHaggis Wed 13-Jun-18 17:05:48

So meet him elsewhere, your house, a pub, cafe, park...

Oopsy41 Wed 13-Jun-18 17:06:21

My now husband lived with his mum for the first three years of our relationship and I never had a meal with her once. There's nothing you can do apart from not spend time with her

RunningBean Wed 13-Jun-18 17:06:52

Invite him to yours or go out instead of going to his parents house then.

Vitalogy Wed 13-Jun-18 17:07:23

Just seen your update. Spend time out or at your place. Don't go to his.

adaline Wed 13-Jun-18 17:07:39

That's far too intense for only 4/5 weeks in. I hadn't even told my parents DP existed after that kind of time! Why are you having dinner with his parents?

How old are you both? Why does he live at home? Do you? Or can he come to yours?

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo Wed 13-Jun-18 17:09:56

Christ, why are people so intense!! Seriously? A few weeks into dating a new person and you’ve eaten dinner with his mum several times?? How romantic!

Orlandobound Wed 13-Jun-18 17:11:57

It sounds like you need to spend more time at yours, or out.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy Wed 13-Jun-18 17:13:24

Yes, you guys need to be spending more time together on your own, not with his parents! She sounds very ignorant though, even more of a reason not to spend time there.

crispysausagerolls Wed 13-Jun-18 17:22:48

How old are you OP?

Katgurl Wed 13-Jun-18 18:08:22

I'd do nothing except limit the time you spend with her. He's not agreeing with her so that's all you need to worry about.

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