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Justwondering14 Fri 08-Jun-18 18:25:38

It seems the view is that this shouldn’t ever be done.

I have complained a few times. Once about a male member of staff telling my fifteen year old she looked like she was enjoying that in a suggestive way when she had a lollipop.

Is it always ‘wrong’, then? I’m not a teacher ...

SoddingUnicorns Fri 08-Jun-18 18:29:06

Yes, when their incompetence led to DS1 being injured (trip to A&E and stitches) in the playground because they weren’t doing their job. I was less than impressed when their union rep turned up hmm

I’ve also complained about the current headteacher of DS1s unit mocking a staff member (cleaner) with ASN behind her back to parents. Since she is the head of an ASN unit attached to a mainstream I was horrified at her attitude and told her so, bluntly. I also made a formal complaint.

That said, I’ve also made a point of writing to the education dept when a teacher has gone above and beyond or just done a really good job. It’s appreciated and if I’m willing to complain I should also be willing to say when something has had a really positive impact on my child’s life.

CheeseyToast Fri 08-Jun-18 23:56:46

Yes, complained about Y2 teacher who told kids their "news" (in the holidays I went swimming) wasn't interesting enough and she wanted proper news like "I went to Australia"; blew a whistle in their faces when she was angry (often), told them to "suck it up" if they cried when hurt... I could go on.
She was sacked.

Fruitcorner123 Fri 08-Jun-18 23:59:10

. I was less than impressed when their union rep turned up hmm

why? People are entitled to representation. The teacher will have paid to be a member of the union

HeedMove Sat 09-Jun-18 00:06:47

Yeah who told my daughter to stand up and read her score out from a test. She was in the middle of being checked for dyslexia. Shed only scored 3 out of 90 and said so I have to its embarassing the teacher said yes thats your punishment for not studying dd said I did for hours with my mum (she did) she shouted you are lying at her. She knew she was being tested.

Then her maths teacher who had told me he only allowed her to use a calculator for tests, when it was in her individual learning plan from the ot and learning support she should be allowed it all the time, said to her I think your problem is you just arent paying attention and listening that is why you dont remember anything. Shes got very poor short term memory and processing difficulties as part of her dyslexia which I explained to him the night of the calculator chat, so he knew fine well. Prick. Hes left teaching now.

Justwondering14 Sat 09-Jun-18 07:44:38

Thanks, it does surprise me when people insist they would never complain because the child must be lying.

MoonsAndJunes Sat 09-Jun-18 07:54:41

Thanks, it does surprise me when people insist they would never complain because the child must be lying.

You get both sides.
Put your child's version of events to the school, they will then speak to the teacher/other students who were there and everyone gets the full picture.

Most people recount events from their perspective only -children & adults alike..
Schools aren't calling children liars just by finding out the full facts.

acornsandnuts Sat 09-Jun-18 08:01:02

A science teacher who at GCSE level sat with her shoes off, feet on the desk and told them to copy chapters out the book in every lesson . I assume I wasn’t the only parent to complain as she had many observation lessons after that and was eventually sacked.

Oliversmumsarmy Sat 09-Jun-18 08:03:08

Yes when I found out ds had spent the previous term and nearly 1/2 a term kicking ds out of class for anything that she thought he did.

Final straw was when he returned to school after a 2 week absence due to pneumonia.

Dr gave him the all clear but said he would have a cough for the next 6 weeks.

All explained to the teacher (who walked away before I could finish) and teaching assistant.

Monday Ds coughed in class so was sent to sit outside. In the afternoon he was not allowed to return.

Tuesday ditto

Wednesday I found out from someone else.

Went into ht's office. Completely blazing and asking if I should keep him off for the full 6 weeks. I asked what was the point of sending him in if he wasn't attending class.

I think it was the straw that broke the camel's back. She was gone by 11am

Ds never recovered from that time because he missed out on the opportunity to learn to read and write. In year 2 they expected everyone to be literate and if they weren't they were left behind.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners Sat 09-Jun-18 08:15:57

Only once, when DS was in year 11 and had a science teacher that openly admitted at parents evening that he couldn't control the class so had pretty much given up on them - he would send them outside and on one occasion there were 14 of the 25 pupils outside the classroom messing about. He also gave a scathing review of DS, calling him arrogant, immature and sarcastic, which was the opposite of what every other teacher had said, the general consensus was he was polite, charming and funny, but a little scatty.

DS wanted to learn but also because there was no discipline became involved in daftness with his peers. I thought he was exaggerating when he said more of the class were outside the room than in it, but when I asked the year head to investigate, there had been several similar complaints. I had mentioned my concerns about these things at parents evening to the principal, and he said that he knew the teacher wasn't ideal and struggled with the older pupils, but they were short staffed and underfunded so couldn't attract better staff. The teacher left shortly afterwards and one of the other schools in the MAT seconded a teacher to finish the year.

Pengggwn Sat 09-Jun-18 08:20:07

Why would it bother you that someone got their union involved? That's what they're for.

Justwondering14 Sat 09-Jun-18 08:25:55

I would expect a teacher accused of something to have union representation to be fair

Skarossinkplunger Sat 09-Jun-18 08:27:28

How do you know he said it in a suggestive manner?

Pengggwn Sat 09-Jun-18 08:29:21

It does sound dirty minded to say that someone saying you're enjoying
a lollipop is "suggestive". It might be, but it would need to be accompanied by more than the words.

Metoodear Sat 09-Jun-18 08:29:32

Well I complained my son and another boy told me the teacher swore in class went up all guns blazing and

they were lying

Justwondering14 Sat 09-Jun-18 08:29:41

He looked her up and down and said looks like you’re enjoying sucking that hmm

DD was very embarrassed and quite distressed about it.

Elusiveone Sat 09-Jun-18 08:29:54

Yes when my dd was at primary the school senco really took a dislike to me for no reason. I made a complaint and she stopped this in the end. I dont know why she disliked me as i was only ever nice to her and never rude.

BillywilliamV Sat 09-Jun-18 08:31:24

Yes, incompetent supply . design tescher. Wouldnt necessarily believe 14yo DD about something like this though. Hes more likely to have been being sarchastic surely.

Pengggwn Sat 09-Jun-18 08:32:21

I had a parent threaten to make a formal complaint about me once.
I basically said go for it, and this enraged her still more. It was fine, I hadn't done anything wrong and she knew it.

Justwondering14 Sat 09-Jun-18 08:33:32

What were you accused of

Yogagirl123 Sat 09-Jun-18 08:33:36

Yes we had cause to make a complaint about a teacher once after our dyslexic son came home very upset, not just having a moan, he was completely unconsolable, which I have never seen him like ever before. It took me so long to calm him down and ask him to explain what had happened.

The teacher totally humiliated him in front of the class. I was so angry as trying to get DS to school at the time wasn’t easy as it was. His confidence was in shreds.

The school took it very seriously and supported us with the complaint.

The first and only time we have ever complained about a teacher, but we were totally justified in our complaint.

Pengggwn Sat 09-Jun-18 08:33:53

Just bullying her absolute madam of a daughter. I wasn't.

Justwondering14 Sat 09-Jun-18 08:33:56

Luckily the school believed her hmm

Justwondering14 Sat 09-Jun-18 08:35:01

Sorry x posts.

I wouldn’t ever complain without good reason but DD was in year 11 at the time (15 nor 14) and I did believe her.

Bit of a mockery of we believe you when we don’t believe our own kids.

ParentInCharge Sat 09-Jun-18 08:35:18

DS's teacher. Y1 class. There's a boy in his class who is quite violent. An actually bully even at that young age. He always has been thanks to his passive parent, i swear, i reckon that if the kid stole candy from a baby his mother would praise him on his assertiveness and coo about him knowing what he wants.

So. DS was getting hurt a lot. The boy was doing things like pinning him to the floor by his throat, or repeatedly hitting him in the face with a lunchbox. Or spitting in his lunch 🤢.
My son n would tell his teacher.. other children would tell the teacher. My older children would tell his teacher. And the response every time? "Just stay away from him then"
She would rather make my son, the victim, move away from where he was playing with his friends every time the boy came near than deal with the boy.

I went over her head and made a complaint about the bully boy and more so, the teacher.
She's quite negative towards my boy now. His report was pretty crappy saying how he told tales/fibs etc. At parents evening my son was saying something that had happened recently and she did the head tilt, smirked and said, "Well that's not really true is it?" DH put her straight and told her it certainly was and had happened quite recently!!! So now we can't trust that she's not instantly dismissing my son as a liar like she did then. Funnily enough, his other teacher (they have a different teacher 2 days a week) actually came out at pick up one day to tell me what a wonderful, polite and well behaved boy he is. So obviously she's seeing a different kid to what the other one does. Roll on Y2 and I'll find out how my DS really is.

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