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To think 2pm on a Sunday is an anti-social time to barbeque?

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BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot Sun 03-Jun-18 14:25:17

One of my sets of neighbours are an obnoxious couple in the early throes of retirement. They have children my age and grandchildren who are toddlers. This time of the year until October now they will be barbequeing almost daily and twice daily on a weekend with the kids and grandkids noisily "enjoying" The garden.

We work full time. The only time we can feasibly peg out washing is the weekends but with this good weather every weekend from 1pm 2pmish their barbeque is fired up and doesn't go off until dinner.

I freely admit I don't like them as it is but this just tips the balance. Do tell me I'm being unreasonable...ill just ignore you keep seething while they stink my washing out.

halcyondays Sun 03-Jun-18 14:26:16


Ubercornsdiscoball Sun 03-Jun-18 14:26:44

It’s a perfect time to BBQ surely?!!

FittonTower Sun 03-Jun-18 14:26:54

It's a pretty normal time to barbeque isn't it?

Sirzy Sun 03-Jun-18 14:27:13


Stick your washing out earlier if necessary!

Shoxfordian Sun 03-Jun-18 14:27:13


araiwa Sun 03-Jun-18 14:27:15

Seems to be a perfect time for a bbq

RhiWrites Sun 03-Jun-18 14:27:17

You’re being unreasonable. It’s perfect bbq time. Hang the washing on an indoor rack if you’re really worried about it.

iklboo Sun 03-Jun-18 14:27:33

What time do you expect them to have it at the weekend?

Buster72 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:28:00

Yanbu. No one should be able to enjoy their property in this fine weather. The only thing that ever mattered is your washing.

Frosty66612 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:28:00

I think anytime during daytime hours at a weekend is reasonable for someone to be bbqing in their own garden. Get some of the febreze fabric spray. I use it on my laundry if it’s been hanging outside and it gets rid of any smokey smells

sola82 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:28:14

I can see why it might be annoying for you, but yabu. You can't expect them not to enjoy a bbq in the nice weather because of your washing!

BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot Sun 03-Jun-18 14:28:25

Dinner time - as in actual dinner not lunch - I think i would be more understanding if it wasn't every bloody weekend and both days of the weekend to boot.

Sarahplane Sun 03-Jun-18 14:28:33

of course you're being unreasonable. get a grip.

SoapOnARoap Sun 03-Jun-18 14:28:56

Is this a serious post??! confused

TemptressofWaikiki Sun 03-Jun-18 14:29:03

You can hang your washing out any time. What a weird, self-centred gripe. That is the whole point of an outdoor space, to socialise and enjoy, not merely a place to hang laundry.

Ginger1982 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:29:25

Why aren't you hanging out your washing first thing in the morning then so it's dry by the time the BBQ gets going?

tealandteal Sun 03-Jun-18 14:29:47

Our neighbours are also fond of a bbq and it really riles me up if my baby clothes come in smelling of smoke BUT they are entitled to enjoy their garden. In weather like this you can dry a load of washing in an evening and finish it off on the airer. Yesterday one load of washing was dry by lunchtime.

insancerre Sun 03-Jun-18 14:30:00

Get your washing out earlier
If you put it out first thing then it should be dry by now

AnyFucker Sun 03-Jun-18 14:30:32

I hang my washing out before I go to work during the week.

Barbie222 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:30:34

How on earth do you manage only hanging out clothes at weekends. We did that, it'd look like an assault course! Get an indoor airer.

Stompythedinosaur Sun 03-Jun-18 14:30:56

YABU I'm afraid. It's pretty standard.

BertrandRussell Sun 03-Jun-18 14:31:14

“One of my sets of neighbours are an obnoxious couple in the early throes of retirement”

What do they do that’s obnoxious?

reallybadidea Sun 03-Jun-18 14:31:22

Why does working full time preclude you from hanging out your washing during the week?

LML83 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:31:49


We also both work full time and hang a washing most days. Weekend is not the only time if you are bothered. Or hang it out early so it is in by lunch.

Washpot Sun 03-Jun-18 14:32:17

Unanimous yabu. I think you've got the message now...I hope...

SilverySurfer Sun 03-Jun-18 14:32:33

Of course YABU and ridiculous.

Littlelambpeep Sun 03-Jun-18 14:32:54

Honestly.. move to the country if you don't want to bother with neighbours.

Eifla Sun 03-Jun-18 14:32:56

Hilarious 😂🤣

AnyFucker Sun 03-Jun-18 14:32:56

I'd like to know what the "early throes of retirement" are

TheNebulousBoojam Sun 03-Jun-18 14:33:03

I put my washing out at 7am and it was dry by lunchtime. Try that.
Of course YABU, they are doing a very normal activity at a reasonable time.
Don’t worry OP, I can see new rules on bbqs coming in shortly, along with restrictions on wood burning stoves and bonfires.

teaandtoast Sun 03-Jun-18 14:33:28

I feel your pain. My neighbours used to fire up the barbecue at 11.30 am every day for most of the year. It stank. I had young children and plenty of washing. Did they care? Did they fuck!
Fortunately they've stopped doing it now.

Foggymist Sun 03-Jun-18 14:33:30

Why would people wait until the evening when it's colder and kids will need to go to bed soon instead of barbecuing at lunchtime if they can? You're definitely being unreasonable, are you saying you wouldn't bbq for lunch with your family on a fine day? Hang your clothes out in the morning or on Saturday, there are lots of weekend hours other than Sunday 2-6. Can you not do it on weekday evenings too and bring it in before work the next day?

BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot Sun 03-Jun-18 14:33:32

What do they do that’s obnoxious?

They're the neighbours NO ONE wants. Loud, messy, music blaring, cars parked all over the place, a dog who seems to live in the garden and never shuts up, try and talk nicely with them and get sworn at... delightful specimens.

MinisterforCheekyFuckery Sun 03-Jun-18 14:33:36

During the day on weekends? That's the very opposite of antisocial!

MadMags Sun 03-Jun-18 14:33:36

This can’t be real! You have a job so can’t hang washing out in the week?

And you can only hang it out around 2pm on a weekend?

Give over!

BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot Sun 03-Jun-18 14:34:46

Early throes of retirement- not elderly but due to the volume they speak at I know he gave up work last year and she has reduced her hours to almost not working.

PanPanPanPing Sun 03-Jun-18 14:34:48

This is either a joke, or a reverse. Otherwise you've lost your marbles, OP.

Kangaroo1 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:35:36

It's the perfect time for a bbq!

insancerre Sun 03-Jun-18 14:36:22

Op, are you just a little bit jealous then?
Poor you having to work full time and your neighbours being in the throes of early retirement

teaandtoast Sun 03-Jun-18 14:36:24

If my neighbours had moved, @Bump, I'd think they were yours! Yy to the loud music, drunken screeching and loud talking and a yappy little dog to top it off.
Perhaps there's a factory producing them somewhere? 😂

CurlyhairedAssassin Sun 03-Jun-18 14:36:25

Come on, you must surely know that you’re being massively unreasonable!

We bbq every 3rd weekend or so if weather is nice. Sometimes I leave a few bits drying on the line while we do it. It doesn’t end up smelling of smoke, andwe don’t have a massive garden.

You sound like a right whinger. Your neighbours sound nice and sociable and using their outdoor space to have a good time.

Yesterday someone in one of the gardens backing onto mine had a party with shrieking and cheering going on for over 7 hours. Was a bit annoying but I assumed it was for a special occasion, possibly a hen night, so was happy it went well for them.

ZaZathecat Sun 03-Jun-18 14:37:02

They do sound obnoxious from your other comments, but you seem to have picked on the one aspect of their behaviour which I'd perfectly reasonable for your AIBU... so YABU!

olivesnutsandcheese Sun 03-Jun-18 14:37:03

OP I think you probably ought to either move house or get one of those super Mumsnet reviewed heated indoor airers.

Itchytights Sun 03-Jun-18 14:37:27

Put your washing out earlier.

End of.

MaryShelley1818 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:37:36

YABU! It’s the absolute perfect time for a BBQ 🍗

caperberries Sun 03-Jun-18 14:38:03

kids and grandkids noisily "enjoying" The garden

How spiteful you sound

Fluffyears Sun 03-Jun-18 14:38:25

In have dinner kar neighbours, noisy feral family, constantly in the garden with their music on, park incorrectly therefore put their bin out in the space we are meant to use. However, Yabu about them bbqing and we both work 49 hours each a week and I hang out another ad if eashing each morning then take it in when I get home. What stops you doing that?

yeahforsummer Sun 03-Jun-18 14:38:37

My MIL hates bbq's and when living in a house used to complain a great deal about neighbours having one, so you aren't the only person who feels like this. However it is a perfectly normal thing to do and a perfectly reasonable time to do it.

gottachangethename1 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:38:43

I too hate the smell of bloody barbecues. I put my washing out before I go to work, or early on weekends so that by midday it’s dry. When i win the lottery, the first thing I will do is buy a house that’s at least one mile from the nearest neighbour, althyim happy to admit I’m an anti social misery grin

UrsulaPandress Sun 03-Jun-18 14:39:18

You need to move OP.

MissMary0fSweden Sun 03-Jun-18 14:39:28

Have you tried reporting to the LA? grin

BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot Sun 03-Jun-18 14:39:32

Not in the slightest bit jealous of them. I can't see them making it to late retirement given their lifestyle...

I'm not sure if I like or dislike the idea of a factory mass producing obnoxious neighbours! It's got to be the only logical explanation for how many are dotted round the country!

lardymclardy Sun 03-Jun-18 14:39:54

Some people hate to watch/hear/smell families enjoying themselves. You fall into this category OP. Loved the drip feed too. Go out, get your own BBQ talk to them, have fun!

ThisCannotBe Sun 03-Jun-18 14:40:19

Are you my next door neighbour? She's a miserable so and so as well.

Don't worry OP. Blink and summer will be over so everyone can scurry back inside to their slow cookers.

MyOtherUsernameisaPun Sun 03-Jun-18 14:40:23

YABU, sorry. It's a really normal time for a barbecue. That said if they do it all the time I do understand why you're annoyed about your washing. It's just one of those very annoying things unfortunately!

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dragonwarrior Sun 03-Jun-18 14:40:48

YABU..... it's an ideal time to BBQ on a sunday

TittyGolightly Sun 03-Jun-18 14:41:05

However, Yabu about them bbqing and we both work 49 hours each a week and I hang out another ad if eashing each morning then take it in when I get home. What stops you doing that?

In my case the neighbours who set their wood burners off before I get home from work. 😡

BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot Sun 03-Jun-18 14:42:27

Funnily I have no issue with the other families and their children in their gardens that are around our house. I'm not miserable or spiteful just this one family really have wound me up after years of not being able to enjoy my garden due to them!

My other neighbours seem to manage to enjoy their gardens with the kids and families and even have parties and bouncy castles without being like this family.

DarlingNikita Sun 03-Jun-18 14:42:36

Well, the loudness, messiness, swearing etc sounds unpleasant, but of course YABU about the BBQ.

Hellsbellscockleshells Sun 03-Jun-18 14:43:25

Hang washing out earlier and in the week bbq’s are the norm for many people on a weekend during any nice weather.
One of our neighbours used to BBQ most nights during the week close to our side and on a weekend they would start bbq early evening and regularly had about 20-30 noisy people on ‘their decking’ which is within about 6 inches of our garden and almost directly below my daughters bedroom. They had a blasted patio heater so the noise carried on until wel after midnight on a regular basis. It was worse when the children were younger and couldn’t sleep for the noise.

ZanyMobster Sun 03-Jun-18 14:44:28

I would expect that 2pm is a normal time for BBQing so YABmassivelyU about that but they do sound like awful neighbours with the rest of it

RomeoBunny Sun 03-Jun-18 14:44:40

Get a dryer. You're a crank. And yabu.

kaytee87 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:45:21

Of course you're being unreasonable. You're right to hang out washing doesn't trump their right to have a bbq surely?
Hang it out before bed and bring it in before lunch?

kaytee87 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:45:56


TittyGolightly Sun 03-Jun-18 14:46:01

Get a dryer.

Ah, great idea. Pay though the nose for something that runs off fossil fuels rather than hanging stuff for free outdoors and letting nature do its thing. Genius idea.

No wonder the human race is fucked with that sort of thinking.

MiggeldyHiggins Sun 03-Jun-18 14:46:18

There really couldn't be a less reasonable time to barbeque, 2pm Sunday of the June bank holiday.

BakedBeans47 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:46:46

BBQing at 2pm on a Sunday is fine. You’re obviously letting the other issues you have with them cloud your judgement

River93 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:46:52

Perfect time and actually I’ve got a BBQ just starting now wink

amicissimma Sun 03-Jun-18 14:47:31

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Fatted Sun 03-Jun-18 14:48:08

I don't think this is about the BBQ at all really is it?! You don't like the neighbours do you?! Unfortunately in the summer, people will come outside in their gardens and if you don't get along you have to decide if you want to go outside as well when they're there or just go somewhere else!

I live in a terrace. Everyone's garden is on top of every one else's. There's no getting away from a BBQ if someone half way down the street has one! I just hang my washing up outside and deal with it.

Mummyoflittledragon Sun 03-Jun-18 14:48:24

Hang it out early or hang it out the evening before if you don’t want to get up early. Either way will be dry by lunchtime. Or get up ten minutes earlier and peg it out during the week before work.

BBQs twice daily would be annoying too but nothing you can do apart from organise yourself better.

Bigkingdom Sun 03-Jun-18 14:48:44

My partner works Sunday nights so we have done BBQs at around 2-3pm before he leaves at 4:30pm. Don’t see the issue. My neighbour does them at any time from lunchtime onwards.

TheStoic Sun 03-Jun-18 14:49:37

Oh god you sound awful!! I would watch a reality show of you and your neighbours though.

ToadOfSadness Sun 03-Jun-18 14:49:42

You can hang your washing out any time. What a weird, self-centred gripe. That is the whole point of an outdoor space, to socialise and enjoy, not merely a place to hang laundry.

Not entirely. There is another point to outside space, fresh air and peace and quiet to enjoy your own garden, sadly that is becoming a thing of the past, even in detached houses and semi rural or rural areas where there are neighbours because then they have children that ride on mini tractors and mopeds right by your house rather than in the field out of the way but that is used for testing bike engines and repairing old cars.

A BBQ is an unpleasant thing to smell but it happens, however all day every day is selfish and inconsiderate, along with the yelling and screaming that goes with it. Unfortunately people don't give a stuff any more about anyone else.

Buggered Sun 03-Jun-18 14:50:21

Don't worry OP. All those burgers, sausages and red meat means they will soon be at the centre of the crematorium barbecue.

TheMonkeysAreMine Sun 03-Jun-18 14:52:41


Youvealwaysbeenthecaretaker Sun 03-Jun-18 14:53:02

Log it with 101.

happypoobum Sun 03-Jun-18 14:53:28

I am bewildered.

Why can you only peg your washing out at the weekend? confused Can you please explain this?

I set mine to come on before I get up and peg it out before I leave for work - or just put it on a short wash cycle when I get up and then peg it out.

The rest of it - neighbours having BBQ mid afternoon sounds totally standard. Do you fall out with lots of people OP? grin

Bombardier25966 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:53:30

It would do my head in, but I'm unreasonable in this respect too!

nolongerblue Sun 03-Jun-18 14:53:55

I think your post title was unfortunate. 2pm on a sunday is not an unreasonable time to BBQ.

HOWEVER, I do think having a BBQ every day, every weekend, and some days twice a day is a bit much, and pretty inconsiderate of your neighbours.

So no, YANBU.

Cornettoninja Sun 03-Jun-18 14:54:43

Yabu but I feel your pain. I'm a proper mardyarse about other people impacting on my space even if it's socially acceptable to most.

Barbecues and fireworks are on a par in my head. Fine if you've got a large garden but bloody annoying if your hemmed in like chickens.

MiggeldyHiggins Sun 03-Jun-18 14:56:04

how are bbq's anything like fireworks?

StewPots Sun 03-Jun-18 14:56:07

Yabu. I spent last Monday delaying my BBQ on my day of annual leave because my neighbour returned from holiday and was intent on hanging out all her washing. I was considerate enough to give her the morning and early afternoon, but come 3pm I wanted to get on with it.

My mum and my kids were all looking forward to it, so we lit it. Most of the washing looked dry and she came out immediately and bought it in.

It's all about consideration and we don't have many days where we can BBQ as it is. I'm not giving them up for washing that can be hung out the front or elsewhere. I do it with mine as well, and therefore get my washing out early morning so if it needs bringing in early it's dry.

How do you cope when it rains??

AllMYSmellySocks Sun 03-Jun-18 14:56:29

I actually think YANBU. I mean it's fine to BBQ on a Sunday but the obnoxious part is that they're CONSTANTLY doing it and always being noisy in their garden. If you make a lot of noise it's fair to give your neighbours a bit of a break so they can enjoy their garden too.

CurlyhairedAssassin Sun 03-Jun-18 14:57:07

“A BBQ is an unpleasant thing to smell”

Do your neighbours cook poo burgers or something?

Am I the only one not getting the idea that BBQs are an unpleasant smell?! confused they always remind me of holidays and fun and I’m not veggie so like the smell of meat cooking (unless I’m hungry and then it just makes my mouth water)

MiggeldyHiggins Sun 03-Jun-18 14:58:04

I only find them unpleasant when they make me hungry and I don't get any!
But we have huge gardens so you can't smell the neighbours anyway.

DialsMavis Sun 03-Jun-18 14:58:25

We work full time but still manage to hang our washing out in the week. Either before we go to bed (divisive statement on here I know) or before we leave for work, it takes 5 mins.

Your neighbours sound awful, but not for bbqing

BritInUS1 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:58:43

😂 yabu

BiggerBoat1 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:59:01

YABU. And a bit mad. You know that now right?

FASH84 Sun 03-Jun-18 14:59:10

If you were my neighbour I'd light the BBQ daily just to piss you off. You sound very sour. If you want acres of land and privacy, pay for it.

ilovesooty Sun 03-Jun-18 14:59:21

You're being utterly ridiculous. That's a perfectly normal time to have a family barbecue.

TheBlackMadonna Sun 03-Jun-18 14:59:23

It’s not an unreasonable time to have a bbq. The other behaviour you describe sounds shitty though so perhaps this feels like the last straw.
My DF has neighbours whose bbqs went on till around midnight and usually ended with an al fresco very loud blazing rows between the hosts once the guests had gone. Now that was antisocial imo.

BuntyII Sun 03-Jun-18 15:00:11

Everyone knows good BBQ etiquette is to light it at 3am so you don't disturb the neighbours washing. It's only polite grin

AnnieAnoniMouser Sun 03-Jun-18 15:00:13


Yes, 2pm on a Sunday, it’s a terribly anti social time to BBQ 🤓


Clothes don’t retain the smell of BBQ anyway, so stop your fussing.

FASH84 Sun 03-Jun-18 15:00:23

@MiggeldyHiggins me too! Went out to do some weeding earlier, could smell a BBQ, just made me peckish....

9amTrain Sun 03-Jun-18 15:01:26

Unless you mean 2am, YABVU.

PanPanPanPing Sun 03-Jun-18 15:02:01

"I only find them unpleasant when they make me hungry and I don't get any!" Me too!

And as long as the neighbours aren't setting fire to the fence, then I don't care! And we're in London-postage-stamp-gardens!!

CurlyhairedAssassin Sun 03-Jun-18 15:02:28

“I spent last Monday delaying my BBQ on my day of annual leave because my neighbour returned from holiday and was intent on hanging out all her washing. I was considerate enough to give her the morning and early afternoon, but come 3pm I wanted to get on with it. “

You’re nuts, just bbq at the time that you need to! Being considerate is one thing, you can move the bbq the furthest away from the neighbours washing, but changing all your plans because your neighbour wants to use her washing line is a bit daft. I’m not bothered about someone bbqing in their garden If I have washing out and judging by this thread, I’m sure lots of people think the same. Maybe you just have a fussy neighbour! You get worse smells on clothes that are drying inside when you’ve been cooking a curry or something.

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