I’ve posted before about my DH having OCD. Not sure if it’s relevant in this situation but it may be.
The other day we were out as a family. We were out in the street and, grossly, as I walked under a tree chatting something fell out the tree and fell straight down my throat. Mid sentence I started to choke, cough, and felt like I couldn’t breathe. I I was grabbing my throat, and couldn’t stop coughing, bringing up horrible mucous stuff, whilst being unable to get a word out. It was very clear that something was happening. I grabbed the bag we had with all my DD’s stuff in it and basically with very shaky hands as I was starting to feel quite faint and desperately ripped the lid off her drink.
I realised at this point that DH hadn’t said a word to me throughout. Not even asked if I was okay. In fact he’d walked a few steps away from me and was basically just watching me. When my DD started asking why I was drinking her drink and getting annoyed about it (she’s 3, so her priorities are very much her stuff) he didn’t even answer her. I had to reassure her (in very snatched breaths) that it was fine and I’d get her a new drink. At this point I’m kneeling in the street, covered in flem, still coughing badly, trying to undo a zip to get wet wipes out but couldn’t due to feeling so light headed. I literally had to say - can you help me? to him.
Afterwards he said that he didn’t understand what was going on, and thought that I was just being randomly sick in the street and that as I have ‘form’ for this type of thing that I was ok. I’ve never done anything like that before so I’ve no idea what he’s talking about there. Even if I had you’d think at least he’d ask if I was okay though? I’ve got to admit that when he said that I was a bit sharp with him and said next time I feel like I’m choking in the street I’ll ensure to explain it all fully to him before I lose consciousness.
It’s left me really upset that when I needed him I couldn’t rely on him to help me at all. Yesterday, when i mentioned in a calm way that it had upset me and hurt my feelings he asked me if I was still ‘banging on’ about it and laughed at me a bit. He did subsequently apologise for hurting my feelings but I don’t think he really thinks he did anything wrong. So now I’m thinking I’m over reacting. Am I? Sorry this is so long.
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kiggenpaws · 28/05/2018 04:15
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