Hello,
Hope you’re all having a wonderful bank holiday, if not don’t worry it’s almost over (unless it’s half term for you)!!
So AIBU...
Background: I’ve been with my partner for almost two years. In that time we’ve had ups and downs as both have been through life dragged backwards as it were (who hasn’t). I find it difficult to open up and that’s caused problems and I have difficulty in trusting people, men in particular (father issues and been cheated on and made to feel inferior etc - I’m sure it’s very relatable). So our relationship became very strained.
Last week, he was on his second week away from me with work. I thought things were ok though I was annoyed I wasn’t getting messages except from hello morning at 6am and maybe a 2 minute call or a goodnight text at 11pm. He works long hours and then had drinks out with work colleagues. I don’t mind no messages in the day because he is really busy but in the evening I was a little upset I had no contact really for a few days and I feel very lonely as it is.
Anyway he came home all fine. He was out and I wanted to check something on his iPad, his messages were open and I wasn’t snooping I really wasn’t but I saw a load of texts to random numbers and the subject lines all said something like “Anal outcall?”.
He was looking for prostitutes almost every night he was away. He had also downloaded tinder too.
I confronted him, I felt sick (and was). He said it wasn’t him at first. Then that it was but he didn’t do anything. It was just a fantasy and he was drunk and had also taken cocaine on a few nights.
AIBU for wanting more messages/attention/love? Feeling sick and betrayed and unsure about our relationship?
Any general advice?
I just feel so heartbroken and upset but I still love him. I just want to be wanted and feel desired (sexually but also platonically - I want to be talked to about things).
Sorry that this is worded very poorly. I am just very upset and tired lol.
TIA xx
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Spinning9Plates · 27/05/2018 23:35
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