AIBU Furious SIL asked me to leave BBQ because of impetigo

[ohheytheregentleelephant]

I am so embarrassed and angry. Bank holiday weekend bbq is big deal in my family every year - we all make different dishes to take, there's bouncy castle and games and a cocktail bar.

I've got impetigo. I told DM and DF this - it's their bbq - and they didn't seem bothered so I made the dishes I'd been asked to make and turned up for the bbq today.

SIL went mad when she realised I have impetigo and wouldn't let them put the dishes I made out and basically caused a scene in front of my parents and dbro and my dp insisting that I leave. Luckily before all the other guests arrived or that would have been even more embarrassing. She wasn't shouting or anything but she made me feel like a right idiot.

In the end I did leave - with the food I had spent ages making! What a waste. And had to miss out on the day that I'd been looking forward to for ages. It's not even that contagious!

[NotARegularPenguin]

But is it contagious? I know at work someone has it and if she can’t cover it up she isn’t allowed to work.

[Allthewaves]

Impetigo is a skin infection that's very contagious but not usually serious.

From nhs website

[RJnomore1]

It's very contagious!

I'd be furious if I'd eaten food you had made.

What possessed you?

[Mascarponeandwine]

Is she pg?

[cloudtree]

Its really contagious. why would you even think of going?

[NotARegularPenguin]

www.nhs.uk/conditions/impetigo/#how-to-stop-it-spreading

Says here it’s very contagious and you should stay off school/work. I wouldn’t want to catch it.

[MiddleClassProblem]

NHS says very contagious

www.nhs.uk/conditions/impetigo/

[Firstnameterms]

Ok, I can actually see her point I’m afraid. It is contagious and not a nice thing to have. It screws up childcare because my daughters child minder and pre school wouldn’t take her with it so, frankly, I’d avoid anyone with it to because it is just such a pain in the arse. Saying that, I’m not sure I would actually have the balls to tell someone to leave.

[SneakyGremlins]

It's not even that contagious

Yes, it is.

[Ginormoustrawberry]

Impetigo is highly contagious.

Kudos to your SIL for having the balls to speak up and insist on infection control.

Someone had to have a duty or care and safeguard the rest of the family as it clearly wasn’t being done by you!

[lilyboleyn]

Did she have kids there?
I wouldn’t want someone with impetigo around my kids. It’s not nice.
She doesn’t sound to have handled it well though.

[thecatsarecrazy]

Well a quick google search says its highly contagious. However she was very rude

[BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot]

It's highly contagious! She probably handled it wrong but I agree with the sentiment

[MaxPepsi]

It's very very contagious.

However as you are an adult I wouldn't have kicked up a fuss. Kids I would have.

Where us it??

[DontTouchTheMoustache]

I remember at high school 20 years ago getting a letter home that there had been an outbreak and it was very comtagious. YABU I'm afraid

[lilyboleyn]

*because I wouldn’t want them to catch it; it’s highly contagious.

[Barbaro]

Well the NHS says it's very contagious, so yeah I'd say you were unreasonable. It even says don't prepare food for other people.

[MiddleClassProblem]

There’s a pub having a party tomorrow with a kid with chicken pox if you want to join

[tabbycatbythesea]

It’s very contagious! A friend visited my newborn a few years ago with impetigo, he ended up in hospital

[toughasnails]

Its highly contagious.
She was right to be annoyed

[polsha]

It's not even that contagious!

It's actually highly contagious. What on earth were you thinking

[ilovesooty]

I can't imagine what possessed you to turn up in the first place.

[dinosaurkisses]

Well it sounds like she handled it very poorly, but to be honest I’d be very angry if someone knowingly showed up to a social event with a condition that’s known to be extremely contagious.

[Allthewaves]

Again nhs website

Don't

touch or scratch sores, blisters or crusty patches – this also helps stop scarring

have close contact with children, or people with diabetes or a weakened immune system (if they're having chemotherapy, for example)

share flannels, sheets or towels

prepare food for other people