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Slimming World Consultant has had a Gastric Bypass -AIBU?

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IsThisOkForYou Sun 27-May-18 09:13:10

NC for this obviously

My friend has lost 8.5 stone having had a gastric bypass on the NHS. Prior to the surgery she lost a stone or two on SW but qualified for the surgery because she maintained that she couldn't lose weight via dieting.

Now she's a just become a SW consultant.

It doesn't sit right with me at all.
Surely it's dishonest to tell a room full of members that you have lost the weight through SW when actually you have a stomach a fraction of the size of theirs and feel no hunger?

sausagedogsmakechipolatas Sun 27-May-18 09:22:46

It doesn’t sit right because the people who’ll be parting with £6 a week for her mentorship during their own weight loss are going to think she’s lost her weight through SW - and of course she won’t say otherwise.
Still, fundamental dishonesty is the way diet clubs make a lot of money so she’s only singing from their playbook. I bet she’ll take some of those hideous photos standing in one leg of her “fat” clothes whilst making a disgusted face next [eyeroll]

Awwlookatmybabyspider Sun 27-May-18 09:23:27

But she got the surgery because she did already lose a couple of stone through the SW diet so it obviously does work. There for officially she telling no lies.
You sound catty to be and peeved at the fact that she's turning her life around.
What's the matter can't you wallow and look down your beak at her anymore!

Thehop Sun 27-May-18 09:23:47

YANBU at all.

SerenDippitty Sun 27-May-18 09:25:36

But she got the surgery because she did already lose a couple of stone through the SW diet so it obviously does work. There for officially she telling no lies.

She is lying by omission.

PaintBySticker Sun 27-May-18 09:26:04

I agree it’s dishonest. There’s a big difference between losing 2 stone through diet and another 6.5 stone through gastric bypass surgery. Unless she’s telling people about the surgery she’s implying it was all diet when it wasn’t. I don’t think that’s catty. Good on her for turning her life around but not for misleading SW customers.

OddBoots Sun 27-May-18 09:28:22

If she is telling the people at the class it is all through SW and not mentioning the surgery then she is misleading them and in a commercial environment such as a paid weight loss class I am sure that is wrong and possibly breaking the law.

If she is telling the whole story then I think it is fine, weight loss surgery is no easy answer and needs a lot of work alongside the surgery for it to actually be effective so showing what is needed and the options available is helpful to those in the class.

MinisterforCheekyFuckery Sun 27-May-18 09:29:29

I agree, it's dishonest. Its like when celebrities lose loads of weight and bring out exercise DVD's but fail to mention that they've had surgery, a personal trainer, a nutritionist, taken diet pills etc. Obviously thats on a much larger scale but your friend is still profiting from misleading people who will see her weight loss as something they want to emulate.

InspMorse Sun 27-May-18 09:32:24

She's lying. People will assume that her weight loss is because of SW.
Do her 'employers' (or whatever they are - franchise ? ) know?

dingdongdigeridoo Sun 27-May-18 09:37:06

I’m amazed that SW would allow this. She’s basically advertising that she had success with the diet, but actually used a completely different method of weight loss. Losing those first two stone is relatively ‘easy’ compared to losing eight, as the weight loss journey can be a long slog where you have to break old habits for good. While SW may have helped her a little, it’s misleading for her to tell members that is how she dropped the weight.

Agree it’s like the celebs who push faddy diets or fitness DVDs then reveal they were on some boot camp regimen or had bulimia all along.

specialsubject Sun 27-May-18 09:37:23

given you cant be a diet 'consultant' unless you have been fat, they may not always be the people who know about healthy lifesty les.

poor woman - a lifetime of mush.

AgentJohnson Sun 27-May-18 09:38:15

If you know for a fact that she hasn’t disclosed her surgery to her employers and her clients then you’re not BU but if you don’t, then stop talking out of your arse.

You make it sound like you think she conned her way into surgery when you know nothing of the sort. I’m sure you’re aware that qualification for Gastric surgery on the NHS is a lot harder than saying you want it.

I really hate when people equate what they ‘feel’ about a particular subject with fact.

Mustardnowletsnotbesilly Sun 27-May-18 09:39:14


Emmageddon Sun 27-May-18 09:43:02

A woman I know had gastric sleeve surgery, it cost 9k, she lost 8 stone and looked fabulous. Over the past few years though, she's slowly gained the weight back. She can't eat huge amounts of food in one go, but she can eat small amounts of calorie dense food at frequent intervals. Weight loss surgery hasn't addressed her underlying eating issues.

daffodillament Sun 27-May-18 09:45:36

So all the hard work was nothing to do with SW. As long as she's upfront and honest with her clients it's not a problem. Although I doubt she'll ever be seen as the most 'inspiring' SW consultant given the gastric band.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sun 27-May-18 09:47:06

Another cowardly name-changer. Jealous too!

If you knew anything about this type of surgery you'd know that it's not a 'magic pill'. Your 'friend' (and I use that term in the absence of a more accurate one) has to maintain a healthy, nutritious diet now. Her weight may be gone but she will probably always have that mind-set of thinking about her weight.

I think being a SW consultant is great for her. After all, what could you 'teach^ her that she doesn't already know?

You don't sound anything approximating a friend and I agree about the 'can't look down your sticky beak and wallow in her misery' comment. She'll be wise to you before long and you'll be gone.

Weezol Sun 27-May-18 09:47:35

Raise your concern with SW.

TheStoic Sun 27-May-18 09:51:53

It’s certainly deceptive, if she’s advertising a ‘before’ and ‘after’ and not being upfront about how she got there.

BewareOfDragons Sun 27-May-18 09:53:23

I don't think you are being unreasonable.

She is holding herself out as a successful slimmer due to the program, someone who has lost the weight and has kept the weight off due to the program, but she is not and is not.

It's dishonest.

Nikephorus Sun 27-May-18 09:54:12

If you knew anything about this type of surgery you'd know that it's not a 'magic pill'.
But the point is that she's not done through Slimming World! If she was advertising gastric bands then great, she'd be a fantastic representative. But she's not. She's promoting weight loss through the SW method when she's achieved it a different way. It's no different to if she'd lost it through eating only 400 calories a day or by a really tough boot camp system - you cannot claim that something works if you actually achieved it a totally different way.

SerenDippitty Sun 27-May-18 09:58:00

Yes it’s like claiming an anti ageing cream works when you’ve actually had a face lift.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sun 27-May-18 10:00:01

Nike, she used SW to get the initial weight down ready for the gastric bypass. I personally think she's taken a hard road and I wouldn't choose it for myself but, maybe getting that 10% off was very hard for her - and she achieved it anyway - through SW.

I don't think anybody's personal history of weight loss is anybody else's business if they don't want to share it. Her job is to advocate weightloss through SW and if she can do that - and get results - then she's competent.

There's nothing to have stopped her doing any diet - and signing up to be a consultant for any other that she'd never done. There's no regulation of this that I can see.

That's my take on it anyway and I would imagine that many, many 'skeletons in the cupboard' apply to many weight loss consultants, counsellors, practitioners, and the list goes on... It's such a complex and emotive topic for many.

Cheby Sun 27-May-18 10:02:18

How do you know she is lying? If she is, then fair enough, she’s probably unreasonable. But I don’t see why she couldn’t be an SW consultant with a bypass, as long as she’s open about it.

The tone of your post is bitter; you sound like you resent her having had the surgery. At the very least you sound like you disbelieve her when she says she couldn’t lose weight by dieting. You certainly don’t sound like much of a friend.

Barbaro Sun 27-May-18 10:02:45

Yep it's dishonest. She didn't lose weight through a plan, it was surgery. Kind of amazed other people think this is telling the truth. Wonder what 'truths' they tell.

ilovegin112 Sun 27-May-18 10:10:20

Yet she lost 2st before the surgery with sw

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