...pro a full, complete and comprehensive government benefits system to fund mothers for at least the first 5 years of her child's life?
I'll tell my story, it's not particularly interesting or traumatic, but had I not had access to a safe abortion at 6 weeks then I honest to god don't know how i would have not have ended up homeless or starving.
When I was 21, I met a man. Same age as me. I was working in an airport, leaving for work at 2.45am and usually not getting home until after 4pm. My take home pay was around £980 per month. After rent in my 1 bedroom flat in the cheapest (and also not particularly pleasant) area in my expensive city, council tax, topped up my gas and electricity meters and phone bill (I didn't even have a TV!) I had £35 left to eat and pay for buses to work for the rest of the month. After only knowing this man for 6 weeks, I found out I was pregnant. I was on the pill, maybe it failed, maybe I had missed a couple, I don't know.
Should I have had that baby... how in the hell would I have been able to provide anything for it on that wage? Oh wait, I wouldn't have had a wage at all bevause I wouldn't have had anybody to care for my baby whilst I was working full time and leaving for work in the middle of the night.
So I assume, if you are anti abortion, and I had had that baby, you also agree I should have been entitled to a reasonable council property (not covered in damp or mould or other H&S issues), my rent paid, my council tax paid, plus money provided for gas, electricity, food etc. Plus some furniture (as I always rented fully furnished and didn't have any furniture of my own at 21), a TV, broadband (or maybe I should have sat in with my baby with absolutely nothing except the walls to stare at...)
Plus possible full training paid for by the government when I could have gone back to work once this baby reached school age, as I wouldn't have been a very attractive job applicant by this point.
AIBU to assume this is tour stance if you insist I should have been forced to have been a mother when I didn't want to be one, couldn't afford to be one?
AIBU?
To assume if you are anti-abortion, you are...
Hamandcheesebaguette · 26/05/2018 20:24
I always think this when I see the American right wing weirdos pop up on things like the George Takei Facebook page. Whatever the topic, they can twist it to be about blaming women for abortion.
Pro-life - what they really mean is not pro-supporting that life when it's here 
Choice is the key word. For me, a non medical abortion would never have been the right choice. For every other woman on the planet, they should be able to make their own choice, and not have anyone else's choices forced upon them. Yes that can be hard on the man sometimes, but it's not his body, so it's not his choice.
She'd tell you to have it adopted
This is the answer everyone anti abortion says.
Either that or you should have kept your legs closed. 
Oh well that seems reasonable then GreyGarden, good for you 
My parents are totally and utterly against abortion. They also think 'the breakdown of the family' ie single parents are responsible for pretty much everything that's wrong in society (poverty, drugs, crime, etc). They do not see the contradiction in these two points of view
@flyingpompom
I'm not even responding to the ridiculous notion that no woman should have sex, even if they are taking appropriate precautions, if they are not ready/do not want a baby
But it's easy to say the man has a responsibility... my dad never paid so much as a penny towards me, so that's nonsense. What if the man did a runner and disappeared, became unemployed and didn't pay anything? Like my dad did? (He didn't, were still together now 
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