Why do some people take over the whole place, wherever they are?

[FeeseAndChickle]

There's a certain type that does this isn't there? Pushy, self righteous, loud parent....

Just went into a charity shop in town. There were a set of grandparents in there with their granddaughter who was around 2 or 3. They literally took over the whole shop! Firstly they talked really really loudly and loud grandparented the child the whole time. The little girl had got every single toy and book off the shelves in the children's section and had put them all on the floor and the grandfather just watched her do it. This meant that I couldn't access the childrens' clothing as all of this stuff was in the way.

The woman was choosing things and then putting them on the counter as she'd chosen them, and basically covered the whole counter in her stuff. Not a neat pile , just scattered them everywhere like teenagers clothes in a bedroom. I went to be served and the woman behind the till said I would have to wait until this woman had finished as there was no room on the counter to serve me.

The woman eventually finished and it took ages for the lady behind the counter to serve her. Finally it was my turn and then the pushy lady came back and asked the lady a question about the price of another item, so I had to wait again whilst this was sorted out and the lady had found the manager to get a price, then the lady wanted to buy it so I had to wait for that!

I then went into our local Express convenience shop on the way home and there was a woman in there with a child, who was probably around 2 or 3 again. This woman loudly parented her way around the store so we could all hear her "Yes it's THYME we need isn't it Jasper?". They were before me in the queue and whilst she was being served her child took loads of melons from the fruit section near the till and was just throwing them all on the floor, whilst the mum smiled indulgently and the woman behind the counter fawned.

Now I probably am being unreasonable as I have PMT but AIBU to be pissed off with these two people this morning and everyone else who has to take over the whole bloody place wherever they are?

[Flicketyflack]

Totally agree they like to be heard and usually talk nonsense ime

[Imfinehowareyou]

YANBU. This happens a lot where I live. I seriously think people like this don't see the rest of the public as mattering at all. Best way I deal with it is to see how funny it is and how far they'll go with it.

[TheDairyQueen]

YANBU, it seems to be the "in" thing now. Went to meet a friend today for coffee and watched a child running along the bench seating, and actually yelling at another customer to go away when they sat at an empty table thereby preventing him from running along the bench. He then proceeded to knock chairs over and bang the table. Mum and gran sat laughing and egging him on rather than a firm "no, if you can't sit nicely, we're leaving."

[ToadOfSadness]

I have walked out of shops many times because of this sort of thing and gone somewhere else. Once left my stuff on the conveyor belt after a group of overseas students were arguing for about 20 minutes about how to pay for their own part of the shopping and didn't pay. The cashier just sat there instead of ringing her bell for help, so I left.

It is sometimes, well mostly, down to the person serving when it is a delay like that. The inability to do something useful, and it is bloody infuriating.

[MumofBoysx2]

There are so often extremes - either parents letting them do anything they like or giving massively over the top threats when they so much as look at anything. It's not difficult to be kind and firm and fair (and quiet!!) all at once.

[angryburd]

@toad yes, I'm sure the cashier loves that sort of thing. 🙄

[itstimeforanamechange]

The cashier could tell them to get a move on but you know how much support they won't get eg the time when someone asked someone to get off their mobile phone whole she was serving them and Sainsburys took the rude customer's side instead of supporting their member of staff.

(and then refused to engage on social media when people called them out on their cowardice)

[Keepitw0nky]

YANBU this seriously winds me up