I am currently not working following a departure from a really crap job. The only redeeming feature of the crap job was that it was local and part-time, so work-life balance was good. I was spending lots of quality time with DS (3).
I've been offered a new job.
The job is:
- a very senior role with a cool, growing business in my preferred industry
- highly paid (not far off from being six figures)
- very exciting intellectually
... but it is also:
- full time
- a three-hour commute (90 mins each way), although I will be able to work from home once a week or so
I have done this commute for many years, but left it because I was approaching burn-out. So to make the new job work, we would have to move closer to that place of work. Houses there are much more expensive, so our mortgage would be increased by ~£75-100k for a slightly smaller house than we currently have.
Alternatively, I could:
- just say NO to the job offer
- swap our current house for a slightly more modest one in this area (which I love)
- do a bit of freelancing / p-t work to supplement income (DH's salary would cover mortgage and basic needs, but not fancy holidays, home improvements etc)
We can't quite afford to stay in our current home long-term if I don't work, but the houses we could afford one one salary are still perfectly nice.
AIBU to consider not taking the big, important dream job and simplify our lives instead?
If relevant: DH and I have always been very equal earners. He is okay with both options. In fact, I think he'd slightly prefer it if I said NO to the job as he likes the idea of slowing down a bit. But he will support my decision either way.