Me and my DP of nine years and 2 DC together have been going through a rough patch (year). We have recently had a baby and I was ill throughout my pregnancy with obstetric cholestasis, causing me to be hospitalised and our baby to be early. As you can imagine, I’ve been off sex with the illness, pregnancy and since DC birth 3 months ago. My DP works a full time job in the week and works festivals all weekend and prioritieses his job over our family. We discussed this and he agreed to make more of an effort to make time for his family. He also said that I’ve been cold and uncaring towards him (no intimacy he means) which is something I’ve tried to work on myself.
Last night I wanted to go out to a hobby which he knows is important to me and he knew what time I wanted to leave and after calling him when he was 10 mins late he says he’s just got to the pub and no he won’t come home without having a pint because he’s been at work all day then stuck in traffic.
Today he’s left his phone at home and I’ve had a look through his messages, I know I shouldn’t have but with the amount of time he’s away and not showing an interest in our 2DC and relationship I was suspicious. I’ve found 2 texts he’s sent to other women one saying “I’ve seen your profile and wanting to meet to shower together” and another “I’m wanting to meet someone local to have fun with after work next week”
My AIBU is AIBU to confront him about his behaviour? Talk it through and try and work it out. Or should I be full of rage and just kick him out??? I honestly do not know and I don’t know how to feel
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Bambini12 · 23/05/2018 12:43
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