Don't call her gorgeous!!

Yanbu, because 'gorgeous' just means 'all round wonderful' not 'pretty'.

I know what he meant, but he was being ridiculous.

Hmm...maybe it’s regional? And gorgeous is smilar to sexy in some parts?
I wouldn’t call a DC gorgeous either tbh, but I wouldn’t be bothered if others used it?

I do get the logic behind focusing on other qualities when complimenting girls especially. It does seem to be all focused on looks with girls which i do think should change. Saying that though I wouldn't correct a stranger in the street like that when they're just trying to be nice either. I just try to do it myself when talking to kids

Well, he sounds delightful. YANBU. It's a baby, you were being nice.

I would say that being told I was pretty as a little kid (which I was) did cause me problems, because (a) it made me feel like being pretty was something important and that I'd somehow achieved something because people thought it about me, and (b) when I grew up into a fairly normal-looking older child and teen I was devastated that people didn't routinely say it to me any more, because it was something I'd attached such weight to. I do avoid telling my nieces that they're pretty for that reason, although I'm sure not everyone has the same experience and I think that since he was someone you don't know and won't see again he was just being plain old rude.

I see a lot of people post about this on social media. I think these types of parents want their children to not see beauty past appearance. A celebrity posted about how angry he was at someone commenting on his daughters lovely appearance and he kindly asked them to recognise how clever, thoughtful a kind she was instead. I think it's absolutely ridiculous as a compliment is a compliment and a lot of people are so over sensitive now.

You can see why the world has problems when this sort of thing offends people?

If you see him again then call over “How are you and your ugly duckling of a child?” Obviously I’m kidding but really people have gone mad these days

To see beauty* sorry

This comes up a lot and always reminds me of this quote. Heddy Lamarr was also a mathmatician and invented componants of what is now in modern bluetooth. Even she believed calling people beautiful no matter what they look like was invaluable for their self esteme and i agree. He was being ridiculous and weird.

Sorry

Oh no really? I often call DS "my gorgeous boy"!

Stupid man. Some people want something to complain about!

I've just used the word in reference to a male child on another thread.

The man is an idiot.

Or is this parent of the school of thought that you shouldn't praise your child for anything innate (looks, brains etc) as it's demotivating (or bad for self-esteem if that praise stops in the future) - you should be praising effort or behaviour that they can control?

While I agree it's better to focus on praising behaviour, it's laughable that the odd compliment for appearance etc is going to "ruin" a child.

Ridiculous. He needs to join the real world if this is the biggest issue in his life.

My parents never mentioned my appearance when I was growing up - i suspect for these reasons.. It meant I was an absolute SLAVE to anyone who told me I was pretty!

I call peoples kids gorgeous on the train etc. How creepy would it be if i was chatting to a stranger and said to their child "oh you are so smart and intellectual and i guarentee you are corking at football too."

He's bonkers, you said something perfectly nice and normal.

Yep the world has officially cracked its face. You petrified to open your mouth.
That's why i don't look at kids to be honest.
YANBU

Next time you see him, say 'what an average-looking toddler you have there, sir.'

My mum once called a baby bonnie. In that area it meant fat and ugly - definitely wasn't what she meant

YDNBU I always call kids gorgeous, my own (boys) and others. What is the world coming too!!

How bizarre - what a strange man

I don't see the problem at all