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HasPegOnNose Mon 21-May-18 10:02:02

I have a (distant) relative staying for almost 2 weeks.

We are 1 week in and he is refusing to wash. He stinks and is making my house stink. There is a horrible musty sweaty smell about him and the room he is trashing at my house.

His clothes are also filthy. I ask him for his laundry and he gives me a bunch of stuff while still wearing the stained shirt he had on yesterday. It has a good stain in the middle of the front.

There is a greasy circle on the pillow where I imagine his (unwashed) head has gone. The room stinks, literally stinks angry

Also he is rude to my friends and ungrateful.

He seems to be treating me like a hotel, putting in food orders as he never likes what we are eating. I have gone out of my way to check what he wants but he still makes snide comments and looks unenthusiastic.

The other day he said he liked egg, (I'd checked he liked egg before making the sandwiches, I hate egg but got some especially for him.) When I was making the sandwiches he wandered in and says that's not for me us it... I don't like egg in sandwiches!

I am fuming & at my wits end...Counting down the days until he leaves.

He has been before and never gave me so much as a bunch of flowers or card as a thank you gift. Thankfully it was not at the height of summer and it stayed a few days, I don't think he showered then either but the smell was not as bad.

I was a bit hmmthen...but he is definitely never coming again!

I have name changed in case this gets picked up by the Daily Fail: but it is all true and I cannot believe the rudeness and cheek of anyone who would act this way.

I hope I am not BU here- but you know, it never hurts to check on MN!

Flowersonthewall Mon 21-May-18 10:05:51

Why on earth is He staying with you. Why would you invite this person or agree to them to stay? He's been before so you know what he's like

HasPegOnNose Mon 21-May-18 10:07:38

Flowers, I was doing it for my parents as they wanted to see him & don't have the room for him to stay at their house.

Want2beme Mon 21-May-18 10:08:32

That sounds excruciating. Don't have him back, but if you do, give him a list of house rules before he arrives. Yuk.

HasPegOnNose Mon 21-May-18 10:08:53

And I didn't invite him- he invited himself. I was stupid enough to say yes, ac I said as a favour for my parents - but he is NOT coming again.

Hellbentwellwent Mon 21-May-18 10:10:32

Why on earth do you think the daily fail would give a flying fart about your stinky relative not wanting an egg sandwich confused

HasPegOnNose Mon 21-May-18 10:10:50

Hell- grin

HasPegOnNose Mon 21-May-18 10:11:34

Hell- they have been known to harvest threads before... your comment did make me grinthough.

FannyFifer Mon 21-May-18 10:15:55

I have had a stinky relative stay, I just basically gave him towels & told him to shower as he hadn't done so since he arrived.
Don't put up with it. Tell him.

Ghostontoast Mon 21-May-18 10:16:20

I wonder why your parents fobbed him off onto you? hmm

HasPegOnNose Mon 21-May-18 10:17:07

Fanny, I tried that- but he just said no! I dropped hints, then gave towels, then finally asked him to shower. Any suggestions on what to try next..?

AlonsoTigerHeart Mon 21-May-18 10:18:16

Tell him to buck up his manners, wash or leave.

HasPegOnNose Mon 21-May-18 10:19:10

Lol ghost- I wonder. Thankfully he has not visited in warm weather before. Also to be fair my parents are elderly and my dad says he can't smell very well... I asked dad yesterday discreetly if he noticed the smell and he said 'I can't smell very well anymore...'

Okki Mon 21-May-18 10:20:19

Tell him to leave. Your parents have had the pleasure of his company for a week.

Birdsgottafly Mon 21-May-18 10:20:59

I'd be telling him he stinks and he either washes, or gets out.

If I suspected MH issues, I'd be offering support, but he'd still need to wash.

Aprilmightbemynewname Mon 21-May-18 10:21:40

Pat him on the back - whilst holding a stick on air freshener!!

Fishface77 Mon 21-May-18 10:22:56

Just tell him he has to leave because he smells.
He’s not bothered about offending you so why are you bothered?
Also make sure you tell him he’s not allowed to stay again.

HasPegOnNose Mon 21-May-18 10:23:08

Sadly his flight home is not for another week or I would. I don't think he has much money, or I would just dump him at an airport hotel.

Also, I don't want to offend the rest of the family (who are normal and clean). Although I did wonder why his daughter travelled separately with her family & stayed in a local air bnb - maybe they can't stand him either- but I haven't broached the subject with them: maybe I should. (They gave now flown home.)

BuntyII Mon 21-May-18 10:23:50

You're going to have to tip something over him that will mean he has to shower. Pretend to trip and knock some prawn cocktail on him.

Rocinante1 Mon 21-May-18 10:24:05

For goodness sake, grow a back bone. He's a distant relative whom you've already decided will not be staying again and you obviously don't like him much. So give him details of the nearest b&b or travel lodge and hand him a towel. Tell him to choose - wash or go stay somewhere else because you won't have your home smelling like this anymore.

FizzyGreenWater Mon 21-May-18 10:24:17

So you've actually asked him to shower and he has said no?

Then the next sentence is this:

'You need to shower. You are actually making my house smell. Either take a shower right now, or you are going to have to leave today.'

HasPegOnNose Mon 21-May-18 10:25:39

Bunty- I might tip the leftover egg on him! However, I don't want to risk the house stinking of egg AND sweat - as I doubt he would even shower then.

HasPegOnNose Mon 21-May-18 10:27:00

Fizzy- I have discussed saying that with DP but DP says just leave it - DP has also talked loudly about showering as it's such hot weather and we don't want to smell

Rudgie47 Mon 21-May-18 10:27:09

You just tell him he needs to leave now just tell him to go and you'll drop him off at the bus/train station/airport etc.

serenmoon Mon 21-May-18 10:28:10

Have you told him he smells? I think you need to be honest, tell him he must shower because he smells and is making the house smell. You don't want him coming back anyway to I wouldn't worry about offending him.

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