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Liergotcaughtagain Sun 20-May-18 23:02:25

Regular poster NC for this. I am sure how I feel is not wrong, but OH thinks otherwise.
We went away for my birthday this weekend. It was more of my plan than anything arranged specially by the OH. Ended up booking a hotel and had a fairly good start to the trip. Day 2 ( which is today) we went for breakfast to a near by cafe and while having breakfast, me & him talked about some stuff here & there & about the royal wedding. I mentioned my reservations about Meghan Markle. Nothing too much. Just a quick conversation. He seemed to agree, I think. But like I said it was more of chat than discussion.
He wanted to go for a quick smoke before we could proceed further, so I took DS to a shop near by to get some fruit & water. Fast forward 10 mins we meet OH & proceed according to the plan. I asked OH to take a picture of DS & me. Which he did & with no effort at all. He always does this. I took his phone to take a picture of him & DS & to show him how to take a decent picture for me. As I was showing him I spotted a picture of Megan Markle in bikini. It was the picture before the one I had just took. I asked him & it turns out that while he was smoking he had sent the thing attached below to his group of boys.
I never ever stop him seeing his friends. He goes for night outs when ever he likes. In fact I encourage him to take trips with his friends. I am seriously hurt. He thought it was a good idea to post this just minutes after having conversation with me. That too on my birthday. This clearly is about me when he says "SPEAK TO ANY WOMAN" Also all his internet history is gone & all he has to say is that he doesn't know.
Firstly he defended himself by saying that it's a boys thing & then proceed to say that it's a joke. All that effort to find semi naked picture of Meghan Markle to make a joke, on my birthday. I am so hurt by his comments .

adunno Sun 20-May-18 23:08:19

What were your reservations about her?

ShweShwe Sun 20-May-18 23:12:25

Who are you to be having reservations about her?

Liergotcaughtagain Sun 20-May-18 23:14:08

It's a free country & I am free to have opinions.

arethereanyleftatall Sun 20-May-18 23:19:23

What were your reservations? Do you know her?

MargotLovedTom1 Sun 20-May-18 23:21:40

Did he make up the text in the attachment or is it some sort of meme? So he obviously finds her attractive and couldn't be arsed to engage with you going on negatively about her ( "he seemed to agree with me" sounds to me like he just wanted to change the subject). Then he amuses himself by sending that message to his mates. I don't think it's all that terrible really. Yes it's not entirely sophisticated behaviour, but then neither is going on in a slightly mean fashion about a woman you've never met.

NeedForBlossom Sun 20-May-18 23:23:54

Well, whatever your reservations are, it's safe to say he doesn't share your opinions.

Liergotcaughtagain Sun 20-May-18 23:34:37

I don't understand why you are getting stuck on any reservations that I might have. They are public figures and I am sure that people discuss them. I am not the only one.

FissionChips Sun 20-May-18 23:37:59

You’ve name changed so why not say your reservations?

Liergotcaughtagain Sun 20-May-18 23:38:53

Margot loved .... it's not a meme. He wrote the text and attached the picture

FlirtyRomanticToast Sun 20-May-18 23:40:16

Should you feel terrible? Why, were you being bitchy? If you were being bitchy then maybe.

BlossomRain Sun 20-May-18 23:40:18

I think you are overreacting tbh, she’s an attractive woman and he was just having a joke with his mates

rumpleyrumple Sun 20-May-18 23:41:13

I do not understand why you are hurt?

user1473878824 Sun 20-May-18 23:41:18

I’m so sorry but you have to lighten up. I burst out laughing.

Liergotcaughtagain Sun 20-May-18 23:44:07

Fission.... I am not here to discuss her. It was an opinion I had. Free country and free to have opinions.
Flirty..... Take a deep breath & step back

FissionChips Sun 20-May-18 23:45:04

Fair enough, bit odd though.

Puffycat Sun 20-May-18 23:45:46

Everyone needs to stop banging on at OP about her reservations about Meghan!
The point is it was a harmless discussion with OH and it was really neither here nor there.
The reason she’s upset is cos it’s her birthday, on a special weekend away and it should be all about her!
OH hasn’t really done anything wrong, but he was insensitive and blokish by googling skinny fit birds.
He should be making her feel like she’s the only one!

MargotLovedTom1 Sun 20-May-18 23:46:06

Ok, so what do you think about the rest of my post? Love it or loathe it, it simply sounds like laddish 'banter' which was not meant for you to see.

MyKingdomForBrie Sun 20-May-18 23:46:29

Well what he wrote is objectifying and sexist shite but frankly you’re being a dick talking about your ‘reservations’ as if you know her.

She’s an actress (just a job) marrying the man she loves who also happens to be well known. She’s done nothing that gives you the right to bitch about her and act like she’s asking for it by being a ‘public figure’.

Tempi23 Sun 20-May-18 23:47:18

Ugh. I think I’d be more put off by the fact that what he’s said makes no sense whatsoever.

lostinjapan Sun 20-May-18 23:47:51

What are your reservations? And would your reservations be as strong if Meghan were plain and overweight (being completely honest now)?

Ladi85 Sun 20-May-18 23:48:52

Can see why you’re a bit hurt but think you are also being a bit extreme and ott

IlikemyTeahot Sun 20-May-18 23:49:49

It's a meme so guessing he may not have created it himself, perhaps a coincidence that you had expressed your opinion of her or maybe due to your earlier conversation DH was curious as to why some women don't like her, googled it, found that, sent to boys had a giggle.
Yup it was your birthday but it's also royal wedding fever those kind of jokey pics are Everywhere! Im pretty sure it was about the context rather than the fact she happened to be wearing a bikini in one shot. You seem uptight about it and I'm guessing he didn't intend for you to see it anyway.
You shouldn't take it to heart birthday or not. You won't do yourself any favours being so easily offended.

sweeneytoddsrazor Sun 20-May-18 23:51:34

What effort did you want him to make when taking a picture? It was a snap on a mobile not a photo shoot with a professional.

pallisers Sun 20-May-18 23:51:57

What he sent was sexist and objectifying shite as a pp said. That's the issue if you want to make something out of it Not that he thinks a woman you disapprove of is attractive.

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