In laws implying my Royal Wedding food made their DC sick!

[Loopytiles]

Invited BIL, SIL and their DC (primary school age) to watch the royal wedding on TV, play with our DC etc, and stay overnight at ours. Spent ages on Fri eve/first thing saturday making nice food: posh sandwiches, nibbles and biscuits for lunch/ceremony watching, also bought a handmade, iced cake from the local baker. Later (6.30ish) served a hot, home made evening meal for both adults and DC, and ice cream for DCs’ desert.

On Fri they’d been in touch to say one of their DC had vomited first thing, gave us the option of cancelling, we presumed DC had a bug and said fine to still come if DC well enough.

DC were all in bed around 9pm. At 10ish last night their younger DC woke up and was sick.

This evening BIL sent a text saying DC was now fine and “we don't think it was a bug as DC was back eating and fine today. Maybe DC had too many cakes, crisps and e numbers during the day”

I think the text was really rude and am offended and pissed off. Feel it implies that my food was junk!DH thinks the text was just seeking to reassure and that IABU.

So as not to drip-feed, they are sometimes anti-sugar, in other family members’ houses (eg if desert is served) but also have lots more sugary stuff and junk food in their house - for adults and DC - than we do. There have been some past incidences of them putting DC vomiting down to “overeating” or “something that disagreed with them” and just turning up with unwell DC without letting us know. This time is different as they did notify us so we knew DC likely had a bug.

[GalwayWayfarer]

I think you're reading too much into it - it sounds like they're trying to reassure you that it wasn't a contagious bug for you to worry about. I don't think they were criticising your food, just suggesting their own kid had overdone it.

[always2ndbest]

I agree with your other half, they were trying to reassure you that it wasn't a bug and therefore not to worry about your children catching it and getting ill. I think you are over reacting slightly. Even though you served all the sweet and sugary food, as parents they still had the option of whether their kids could eat it or not and how much they ate, so if they got sick from over eating, it's not your fault. Forget it, don't take it personally, sounds like you had a lovely weekend. Don't let this spoil it.

[Loopytiles]

It doesn’t reassure - primary age DC with no history of vomiting don’t vomit due to overeating, they are far more likely to vomit because they have a bug, and DN’s sibling was sick 36 hours earlier. The DN who was sick is doesn’t have any health issues or history of illness due to food.

[FullOfJellyBeans]

I wouldn't read too much into it, I can see why you're annoyed - especially the e-numbers bit was unnecessary especially if they have form for criticising the food served (why not just say "they ate too much of your delicious food"). On the other hand I definitely wouldn't rise to it it's not worth your energy.

[dailyshite]

My DS has been sick from eating too much junk food

I think you're overthinking this...

[ThatHippyDippyShit]

YABU for using the word nibbles.

[honeysucklejasmine]

It's bollocks though, as you say. It's obviously a bug.

[SavoyCabbage]

I think you are over analysing it.

[Loopytiles]

Yes, admit “Nibbles” is an U word and actually = Pringles.

[Pastaagain78]

I think they were trying unsuccessfully to reassure you. They probably are trying To reassure themselves it wasn’t a bug when all the evidence points to it being a bug. They may be embarrassed they misjudged the sickness with their DC1.

[Loopytiles]

The DN who was sick does not have history of sickness - bugs or food. DN attends lots of parties and is used to sugary food. DN didn’t eat any more than any of the other DC, in fact ate much less and was complaining of tummy pain.

[Fruitcorner123]

Chances are it was a bug as her sibling was also poorly 36 hrs before. Agree they were probably trying to reassure you. I hope you don't get ill. I think you are reading too much into the message.

[BackforGood]

YABU.
As your dh has already explained to you, they were trying to reassure it they don't think it was a bug that might get passed on to your dc.
There's no pleasing some people though, is there?

[IWannaSeeHowItEnds]

I think the e numbers comment was rude. It does imply that you fed their kids junk. They must know that if one child was ill before they even visited, it is a bug and not your food. I'd be less keen to make such an effort for them in future.

[Loopytiles]

Them hoping (against all the odds and evidence) that it wasn’t a bug doesn't mean it wasn’t a bug and IMO implies criticism of the food served.

And why the need to talk about specific foods? The only e numbers served were in the cake. DN had a small slice.

[AreWeDoingThisNow]

So one DC was sick before the food, and one after, but they think it's more likely the second one ate 'too many e numbers' than a bug? Bullshit.

It's a bug.

We had one over Xmas where each family member was sick exactly once (except FIL, he was sick twice, the drama llama), and felt rubbish for 36 hours after. I wouldn't normally put one vomit down to a bug, but given that it got 8 people over the course of a week plus it definitely was.

[Loopytiles]

I don’t mind the DNs having a bug, we were informed of the facts on Fri and decided to take the risk. After making a big effort with the food I do mind the very rude text, whatever the motivation.

[thegreatbeyond]

I honestly wouldn't think anything of it. They ate lots of party food, kids do, so what?

Bet they had a great time :)

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

How is your fault. I'm sure you didn't force this food down the child's throat and I'm.even more sure that their parents are big enough and ugly enough to supervise what their children are eating.

[sweeneytoddsrazor]

Are you usually only sick once with a bug? I don't think it was rude at all, sometimes kids do vomit after eating a lot of party food. Equally it could have been over excitement, to much running around in the sun or any other things.

[LovingLola]

Am officially withered now with all the royal wedding posts....

[Crispbutty]

They aren’t criticising you at all. You are reading it wrong. They are just saying their kid was sick because he pigged out, not that there was anything wrong with the food.

[Crispbutty]

If anything it’s a back handed compliment that the child enjoyed the food!

[MereDintofPandiculation]

I think if anything it's saying that there was so much tempting food on offer that DN overate. I wouldn't regard that as a criticism of the food.

[Loopytiles]

Yes, plenty of bugs are gone after one bout of puking.

DN didn’t “pig out”: I served lunch and dinner. With desserts, but not especially large portions. The DC who became poorly ate less of everything than the other DC.

DN wasn’t out in the sun long either as they were playing upstairs most of the time.