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To wonder why dd doesn't want to join our family data storage?

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Niamhanna Sun 20-May-18 10:36:07

We've purchased a 200 GB storage plan on apple for our iPhones. Our younger daughter has joined it, but our older dd (aged 18) is refusing to, saying it's an invasion of privacy and she wants to keep her phone completely separate.

AIBU to wonder what she has on her phone that she wouldn't want us to see?

teaandtwigs Sun 20-May-18 10:37:23

Do you remember being 18? I would absolutely be saying the same if I was your DD!

Tobuyornot99 Sun 20-May-18 10:37:31

A million things, she's 18! I would absolutely agree with her, daft selfies, messages with her mates about drinking too much, boys she's snogged, it would be odd if she wanted to join IMO

Buzzlightyearsbumchin Sun 20-May-18 10:38:18

YAB completely U she is an adult.

I wouldn't want my family having that sort of access to my phone either.

PinkHeart5914 Sun 20-May-18 10:38:23

She’s an adult she can have whatever the hell she likes on her phone provided it’s not illegal it’s nobody else business.

I’m with her in it being an invasion on privacy tbh....

gamerwidow Sun 20-May-18 10:38:49

Her own private stuff. It doesn’t have to be incriminating it’s just hers and you don’t have a right to see it.
I wouldn’t share my phone contents with my mum either, not because there’s anything dodgy in there but because you need some boundaries.

Returnofthesmileybar Sun 20-May-18 10:39:27

Ah come on, yabu, you know it surely. I have nothing to hide either but no way would I go on to any family data storage

BarryTheKestrel Sun 20-May-18 10:40:15

I wouldn't have wanted to join a family storage at that age either.
Is the storage just photos and music or is it everything from contacts and messages etc? I wouldn't have wanted my family to be able to read my messages, or see my pictures tbh.

My mum was quite against me going out and drinking/smoking/having a boyfriend even at 18/19 however I did these things and had pictures/messages etc surrounding this. If DM had been able to see it by accessing family storage it would have caused me a world of trouble even as an adult.

GalwayWayfarer Sun 20-May-18 10:40:58

She's 18! What 18 year old would happily share data storage with her family? It would be like having a communal diary.

bergamotbitch Sun 20-May-18 10:42:00

You're weird for wanting to see all of her stuff. Give her some privacy for God's sake!

MorningsEleven Sun 20-May-18 10:42:29

Because she has a right to privacy.

Happinesss Sun 20-May-18 10:42:49

She’s 18, I wouldn’t want to share my phone at 18 either wink

TheFaerieQueene Sun 20-May-18 10:43:38

At 18 she is forging her own identity away from the family unit. She is wanting to be more than your daughter or her sibling’s sister. Her privacy is key to this.

Niamhanna Sun 20-May-18 10:43:43

In the plan, she can opt out of photo or purchase sharing (films/music), but she's refusing to join because the data isn't 'encrypted' whatever that means.

Nousernameforme Sun 20-May-18 10:44:47

Depends who pays for it.

boho2u Sun 20-May-18 10:45:22

She's wants some privacy and 18 that's fine. I would share data storage with my parents either.

whydoesitalwayshappentome Sun 20-May-18 10:48:24

I don't blame her. She is entitled to join in or not as she wants. She is an adult after all. I certainly would not have at her age or even now to be honest.

butlerswharf Sun 20-May-18 10:49:13

Totally normal

NancyDonahue Sun 20-May-18 10:50:09

Blimey she's 18. Leave her alone.

I'm reminded of the episide of Black Mirror where the mum gets obsessed with knowing where her daughter is all the time. It didn't end well.

FullOfJellyBeans Sun 20-May-18 10:50:31

I'm 35 and I wouldn't want my parents seeing all my photos, even though none of them are remotely interesting. She wants some privacy let her be!

BaronessBomburst Sun 20-May-18 10:50:44

I'm with you're daughter.
In fact, I don't even bother backing my phone up to the free cloud storage because I don't want my data floating around.

FuckPants Sun 20-May-18 10:51:32

I'm surprised that you even had to ask TBH.

Would you have wanted your parents to be able go through your phone contents when you were 18?

AlonsoTigerHeart Sun 20-May-18 10:51:50

Yes at 32 i wouldnt share either

ToastyFingers Sun 20-May-18 10:52:31

I wouldn't do this now, let alone at 18.

Snowysky20009 Sun 20-May-18 10:52:33

If you don't know what encrypted means, are you sure sites you use, go on, purchase from etc are safe?

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