I’ll try to make it short but at the same time I don’t want to drip feed.
I moved to the UK 2.5 years ago to be with my DP and am currently 6 months pregnant with our first child. My relationship with DF is pretty odd, he’s been there on and off during my own childhood, but since moving to the UK and settling down with my partner I have decided to keep him in my life as things have gotten better between us.
My DP has only met him a few times due to the distance but has each time commented on how tight DF comes across.
As an example, DF has just flown home from a 4-day stay at our place. He slept on our couch to save money, fair enough. DP and I are a young couple and not exactly that well off but manage to get by within our means. Still, DF never offered to pay for anything; I took him to Tesco’s a few times to do the shopping and paid for his beer, food, bus tickets into the city etc.. Brought him along to a private 4D scan which was quite costly and I thought we’d perhaps go out for dinner or something after as we see so little of each other, but he bought us a McDonald’s. On day 3, he ran out of Sterling (he had brought over £80 in total which was to cover airport and taxi transfers too), and refused to go to an ATM to take out more money, so we were stuck in the house as me and DP couldn’t keep paying for everything.
He’s bought our DC an outfit from Tesco so far and nothing else.. DP’s parents have financed quite a bit for us so I can’t help but feel odd. DF is not super rich, but he and his wife do have a nice apartment, a good car, they treat themselves quite often and go on holidays. He keeps going on about how he can’t wait to be a Grandad but I can't help but be put off by how tight he is. AIBU?
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To think my DF is super tight?
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couchgriffon · 19/05/2018 17:00
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