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To wonder what you think about people with disabilities buying sex

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huha Sat 19-May-18 06:01:35

Here is a link:

I personally was at first 😲😲😲 but now am thinking 🤔...maybe this is a good thing?? AIBU?

Luisa27 Sat 19-May-18 06:06:49

Of course it’s a good thing if it’s what the person with the disability wants/needs.
Their life, their choice smile

YouAreNotImportant Sat 19-May-18 06:09:43

Urgh. Pimping site.

Bearhunter09 Sat 19-May-18 06:10:32

The same as anyone else buying sexual services, it’s up to them. For many people sex is necessary to lead s mentally healthy life. If we actually stopped being so uptight about it, realised that it was a profession that serves a societal need then we could remove all the exploitation that happens in this area. It’s because it’s pushed underground that people are exploited. If we treated sex workers in the same way as other skilled jobs a lot less women would be exploited. So I say good on them for doing something about a need they have.

Luisa27 Sat 19-May-18 06:11:02

NB - as long as neither party is being exploited, obviously

Iona1 Sat 19-May-18 06:11:14

About time I say live and let live

BrandNewHouse Sat 19-May-18 06:12:15

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Luisa27 Sat 19-May-18 06:12:30

Very well said @Bearhunter09

AdaTwist Sat 19-May-18 06:15:43

I'm shocked by lots of this, in particular :

"If your client truly lacks mental capacity to make decisions about sex because they have been assessed as being unable to understand what is involved, and any risks involved for them, then it is important to consider whether they could be helped by tailored sex and relationship education. If so, then you may have a duty to provide it before taking any measures to restrict their life."

Sex isn't a right - no one is obliged to have sex with another person for any reason whatsoever. The flip side of that must be that no one can expect to have sex - it's a nice to have bonus but not a human right.

I don't think it's right to buy the use of someone else's body - it puts the prostitute at an unacceptable risk of harm, from pregnancy and STIs as well as rape and abuse.

Lululota Sat 19-May-18 06:16:39

My friend is an physiotherapist in a care home abroad which houses predominantly disabled males, many victims of accidents. They offer intimate therapy from registered sex workers. The state or family pay for it depending on the funding.

BrandNewHouse Sat 19-May-18 06:21:48

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Raver84 Sat 19-May-18 06:25:53

Let them get on with it I say it's nothing new is it.

BrutusMcDogface Sat 19-May-18 06:28:17

Interesting! I think it's ok, though, in the interests of equality for people who are disabled, as long as they do have the mental capacity, and as long as the workers are treated fairly.

araiwa Sat 19-May-18 06:29:27

The same as non disabled

Up to the 2 people involved

StealthPolarBear Sat 19-May-18 06:32:08

Agree with ada

IStillMissBlockbuster Sat 19-May-18 06:34:31

I do not think that you can buy consent, and many many prostitutes are not there by their own free choice. Many were started into prostitution as children, many have awful drug problems, histories of sexual abuse, trafficked into it, intimidated and beaten by pimps who take all ththe if money etc. Plus it has an incredibly high danger rate - rape and murder are incredibly common in this 'profession', as is PTSD. Let's not forget the effect on prostitution women here. would it be ok if it was your mum providing this 'service'?

StealthPolarBear Sat 19-May-18 06:35:59

Ah but men need sex. They have a right to it hmm.

HadronCollider Sat 19-May-18 06:39:33

No absolutely not. Being disabled doesn't give you a right to sex anymore than anyone else and prostitution doesn't acquire charitable status because of the physical challenges of the person using it.

RadicalFern Sat 19-May-18 06:41:34

I agree with previous posters that sex is not a human right, and that it is not possible to buy someone's consent.

I don't know why the idea of enthusiastic consent being necessary for sex goes out of the window as soon as money becomes involved.

Nowisthemonthofmaying Sat 19-May-18 06:41:53

I think buying sex is never a good thing. Sex is not a right or even an essential for life - saying that anyone 'needs' it for a balanced life is totally bonkers.

There are a lot of people put there who would like to be having sex with women but can't. Should we buy sex for all of them? No-one is entitled to a woman's body. For me this is just another line on the continuum of entitlement, with incels at the other end.

Springnowplease Sat 19-May-18 06:44:44

I think buying sex is never a good thing. Sex is not a right or even an essential for life - saying that anyone 'needs' it for a balanced life is totally bonkers.


IStillMissBlockbuster Sat 19-May-18 06:44:55

Don't think that this is a respected business transaction between two equal partners.

Did you know that there are websites where men (why is it always men and prostituted women I wonder?) review the woman. Have a read here and make your own mind up about how mutually consensual and equal this really is Here

HadronCollider Sat 19-May-18 06:49:33


I would like to have been warned that the link is a download. My phone is now sullied.

However it is grim. And eye opening. Bloody hellangry

ImAGoofyGoober Sat 19-May-18 06:52:38

I don’t agree with buying sex at all tbh. And it’s always men buying it. What do the disabled women do?

HadronCollider Sat 19-May-18 06:54:27

Women do buy sex as well but in far far fewer numbers, same stance applies though.

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