Bringing a boyfriend on a girls' holiday

[NasdaqYouTwat]

Person A is celebrating a big birthday next year and as they've been meaning to go on a holiday together, has planned to go on a holiday with B, C, and D.

A's boyfriend also wants to go to this destination and is willing to pay for A. A thinks its a waste of time and money going to the same destination twice and would like her boyfriend to join the group trip.

B and C are against this as they don't know A's boyfriend (having only met him once) and think he'll change the dynamic of the group and they won't be able to let their hair down. A argues that her boyfriend is laid back and won't change the group dynamic.

D doesn't mind if the boyfriend comes.

Who is being unreasonable

[MartagonLilies]

Was the holiday booked before the boyfriend asked to come?

[MadMags]

A.

Couples who insist on doing everything together are pathetic weirdos.

[NasdaqYouTwat]

The holiday hasn't been booked yet.

[Elementtree]

I think A is if it was arranged as a holiday with friends and it will inevitably change the dynamic. I can see why b and c are naffed off. I think you must be d though op. Do you have the final say?

[SometimesMaybe]

A
Totally crazy to gatecrash a friends holiday.

[Trinity66]

That's a tough one, I mean if they're going away for A's birthday then maybe she should choose whether it's a couples thing or not, could the others bring their partners if they have one? But if they had it already booked thinking it was a girls only thing and then A suddenly decides her DP is coming too after they can't back out then that's wrong as well. He will change the dynamic, that's fact

[Cheto]

B c and d should go by themselves ... A should just go with boyfriend

[MiggledyHiggins]

B, C & D need to book their own holiday.

A and Bf who appear soldered together at the hip need to book their own holiday.

[GreatDuckCookery6211]

A

[MidnightAura]

A is. B and C are right, it would change everything. I wouldn’t be happy in their shoes. What man wants to go on holiday with four women?

[Byebyebye]

I wouldn’t want to go on holiday with a tag a long boyfriend.

He will 100% change the dynamic.

They already made the plans together as a girls holiday so they should stick to this.

[Chocolatecoffeeaddict]

Hmm not sure. I think if its A's birthday holiday then she gets to decide but if it was another member of the party then no.

[Notsurewhyimdoingthis]

Can it be turned into a couples holiday instead?

[Incarnationsofunderstanding]

It will change the dynamic but it’s As birthday.

If B or C chose to bring a partner that wouldn’t be ok but if A does and tells people before they are committed and Aso allows others to bring partners if they wish then I think it’s fine.

[Catfacecats]

I wouldn’t be happy if one person wanted to take a boyfriend I’d only met once. It would completely change the dynamic. If it wasn’t booked, I’d cancel and not go.

[ElspethFlashman]

A will guarantee she'll never be invited on a holiday with her friends ever again.

[BritInUS1]

How about A staying for an extra few days after B&C have left and her boyfriend joining her then?

[DingDongDenny]

A - how would it work with rooms anyway - when we go on girls holidays there is normally room sharing - often 3 to a room. You can bet they will want a double to themselves

[Byebyebye]

Also it’ll most likely up the price for some one as they’ll have their own room and then unless they can find a three person room one person won’t have someone to share with.

I’m guessing A just wants a free holiday.

[Notsurewhyimdoingthis]

But really A is BU, bringing a partner will totally change the dynamic

[TonTonMacoute]

Well, it clearly boyfriend cannot come on an all girls holiday.

Why can’t A change the destination for her girls holiday, and go to the other place with boyfriend another time?

[ILostItInTheEarlyNineties]

A is cheeky to ask. It's a girl's holiday for old friends. Clearly the couple will want to do things apart from the group, especially as you don't know him. How awkward.

One of my friends starting bringing her boyfriend to all our meet ups when we weren't bringing partners. It turned out he was a controlling jealous arsehole who insisted on accompanying her bloody everywhere.

[sonjadog]

A is in the wrong. She either goes with her friends or with her boyfriend.

[DrEustaciaBenson]

A is BU. If it's planned as a girls' trip, you don't then suggest bringing a boyfriend. However nice and laid back he is.

[NasdaqYouTwat]

There was talk of turning it into a couples holiday but none of the other three are in long term relationships and it would be a case of finding a random guy to invite.